How to cope with irritations of every day life?


An irritated woman.

When an elderly woman admitted to her grandchildren that she had never ridden on a train, they bought her a  ticket to a nearby town where a  friend lived.

Elated, she got on the train and, after arranging her packages, settled down.

Soon she noticed the upholstery was somewhat torn.

Crumbling, she picked up her belongings and looked for another seat.

Soon she was annoyed by the whimpering of an infant across the aisle.

She moved again.

But here the sun seemed too bright, so she moved to another part of the car.

Hardly had she begun looking out the window to enjoy the scenery when the conductor called out the name of the town.

Stunned that her trip was at an end, she remarked to her friend that she wished she had not spent so much time in being annoyed.

Triumph over petty annoyances

Waiting at an airport terminal.

By failing to triumph over petty annoyances many persons of all ages miss out on much enjoyment and make themselves unnecessarily miserable.

Missing a bus, streetcar or subway train by a few seconds may upset some persons so much that their blood pressure jumps up.

And some become upset if the train in which they are traveling is a few minutes late.

Others cannot triumph over a little irritation such as an unexpected interruption or a momentary flickering on the television screen.

Some motorists give way to heavy honking at the slightest slowdown in traffic.

An untactful remark or some slight lack of consideration by a friend or neighbor can disquiet many persons for days.

So one could spend a great deal of time being agitated, especially since there will be petty annoyances in every walk of life.

Service in a restaurant may be delayed and some persons, not really pressed for time, may become quite irritated, so much so that they can hardly enjoy their meal when it arrives.

One person’s failure to conquer a trifle may be contagious, so we should guard that the discomposure of someone else does not upset us.

If one in a group turns irritable over a trifle, what could be done?

Everyone’s freezing up and engendering a chilly silence is not the solution.

Ridiculing the irritated person is not the way either.

Some persons solve such matters by finding the bright side of the subject and kindly commenting on it or by tactfully changing the conversation to some interesting topic.

Talk on up building and cheerful things and thus help the disturbed person conquer the trifle.

Will we let trifles conquer us or will we conquer them?

The good qualities by which one can overcome petty disappointments and nuisances are those of self-control, patience and love.

Generally the conquers trifles by letting them pass by without harping on them.

If we are seeking love, if we want to earn the love of another, we will overlook his transgression and not make it a subject of common gossip.

We cannot expect the habits of others always to please us; but if we have love we put into practice the fact that love “does not look for its own interests.”

Conquer trifles by do sometimes, for the sake of many persons, small faults may need to be brought to someone’s attention, but the manner in which we do this shows whether we have conquered trifles.

To reprove small faults with vehemence and agitation is as absurd as if a person should take a hammer to swat a fly on his friend’s forehead.

Since minor irritations will enter one’s life, we can learn a lesson from the oyster.

When an irritation enters the life of an oyster, the animal does not like it, and he tries to get rid of it.

But when he cannot get rid of the irritation he settles down to make one of the most beautiful things in nature.

He uses the irritation to make a pearl.

So when an irritation comes into your life, make a pearl out of it, though it may have to be a pearl of patience.

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