How to cope with the challenge of waiting?

Girls waiting in line.

Waiting! Waiting! Waiting!

We cannot escape it, waiting is the common lot of man, woman and child."

Does not the farmer have to wait for the harvest time?

Why, your very existence testifies that your mother waited about nine months from conception until she gave birth to you.

And once born, did you not have to wait long years to experience the satisfaction that comes with being a self-reliant, self-supporting adult?

You are not done with waiting.

You must still face the day-to-day waiting for bus, train or plane, or because a relative, friend or business associate is late.

Do you want to take the sting out of waiting?

Then view it as a challenge to be met. How?

Dealing with the waiting challenge 

The farmer not only waits but keeps busy taking care of the fields until the harvest.

Likewise with her that has conceived; she finds she has much to do until the time for the child to be born.

Invariably there is something that you can profitably do while waiting.

Are you waiting for a promotion, a pay raise or some other form of recognition?

Busy yourself in the meantime with doing the best you can, taking a keen interest in your work or your present assignment.

Then the wait will not seem so long and you will be more likely to obtain the thing for which you are waiting.

Or are you a young woman waiting for the right man to come into your life?

Here again, rather than engaging in mere wishful thinking, keep busy.

Work at improving your mind and heart; cultivate an outgoing personality, a sunny disposition.

Look for opportunities to bring happiness into the lives of others and you will find that waiting has comparatively little sting.

The same principle applies to the day- to-day waiting that can be so trying at times.

Have you an appointment with a physician, dentist or other businessman?

Anticipate waiting by taking along some worthwhile reading and you will be in position to increase your storehouse of knowledge instead of idly and impatiently wasting your time waiting.

Or is the waiting you have to do within the family circle?

Then instead of letting your vexation be known because of having to wait, make good use of the time.

You might wisely use the time to reflect on whether you have forgotten or overlooked something.

How often, after starting out, families discover that they have forgotten this, that or the other thing.

After you have considered whether anything has been forgotten, how about doing some reading for the remaining minutes?

Or look around; is there some untidiness that you could take care of, putting away things?

Or do the house plants need watering?

If you are inclined to be tense while waiting, perhaps it would be even better to force yourself to relax and give your nerves a badly needed rest.

It will certainly be worth the effort.

Another fine way in which to meet the challenge of this day-to-day waiting is by being as helpful as you can.

Is your wife or mother late because she has to clean up after the meal?

If so, how about helping her out?

It is better to be helping others than idly, impatiently waiting; besides, thereby you cut down on the waiting time.

Empathy, or putting yourself in the other’s shoes, will also help.

Make allowances.

The one who is keeping you waiting may be the victim of circumstances over which he has no control.

And how about a sense of humor?

It will also help to keep you from grumbling or scolding and from taking yourself too seriously.

When to be on time  

However, there is another side to this matter of waiting that ought not to be overlooked.

There are times when schedules must be met or appointments be kept.

At such times one can ill afford to wait.

Perhaps you find that your children are prone to be careless about getting ready on time.

If so, what should be done?

Do not pamper them, but exercise a firm yet kind hand. Train them in punctuality.

It will be beneficial both to you and to them.

Or is it your wife who invariably is late, apparently having gotten into a bad habit?

If appeals to reason and self-respect are in vain, it might even be necessary to give an object lesson that will be remembered.

On an occasion when being on time calls for it, you might say, ‘Dear, I’m going now; you can take the bus when you’re ready.’ 

That may come as quite a surprise to her.

Nevertheless, under certain circumstances that is the way to meet the challenge of waiting.

But remember, if you require punctuality of others, you must be punctual yourself.

Make it your objective not to be the one who inconsiderately keeps others waiting.

But if you must wait, meet the challenge; use the time well.