Avoiding getting irritated and upset easily

An irritated black man shows anger in his face.

Bad effects of getting irritated easily

Do you remember the last time you accidentally cut yourself? No doubt your immediate concern was to administer the necessary first aid. Or remember perhaps while hammering a misdirected blow caught your finger instead of the nail. Probably you gave tender care to the damaged member."

However, would it be sensible for someone who cut himself to take the knife and jab it into wound again and again?

Would you think it wise of the one bruised while hammering to pound the rest of his finger to a pulp?

That would be ridiculous. The hurt already inflicted is bad enough. The need is for remedial measures, that is first aid, and not further damage.

Yet, the inflicting of further damage is what one frequently does who becomes easily irritated.

To take offense is to be displeased, pained, annoyed, wounded, or hurt by the action of others. Being irritated quickly indicates a lack of self-control over one’s mental disposition.

It can cause one to act in a manner that can cause damage far more serious and extensive than the hurt of the moment.

It may impel one to give away to outbursts of speech and actions that can disrupt family life and friendships alike, bringing years of regret and heartache.

Others may learn to control their temper, but indulge in another hurtful practice when offended.

This is by harboring of grievances or bearing a grudge against the one offending.

When unchecked this resentment can build up into hatred and blind the mind to its consequences. In time it can manifest itself in hurtful gossip, vindictive action, possibly even violence or murder.

In addition, being irritated easily and brooding over grievances brings on anxiety that can be harmful to automatic body functions, especially digestion.

It can lead to emotional disturbances, which upset internal balances and even produce ulcers.

One’s vital force is consumed by unproductive fretting and health is undermined making our life even more miserable. What can be done then to avoid getting irritated easily?

Avoiding taking offense

Understanding some of the causes can help. One is pride, the thinking more of ourselves than we ought to.

A proud person seeks to elevate himself over others and may resent any action that makes him feel degraded in the eyes of others.

As a result he will become overly sensitive to criticism and lay himself open to becoming irritated easily.

Humility should be cultivated instead. This will help us learn not to demand of others what we ourselves cannot produce-perfection.

We have to appreciate that we all unintentionally offend others. Knowledge of these limitations will aid us becoming more generous and understanding towards others.

This will put us on the way to cultivating the quality of forgiveness.

Forgiveness acts as a healing balm when wounds are suffered. It is to personal relationships what medication is to cuts and bruises.

It soothes, minimizes damage and restores. As a bandage covers over a cut, forgiveness covers over the offense of others.

It keeps the offenses small and insignificant when compared to far more important matter of restoring good relations.

But what if you feel that the offense was committed deliberately and a serious wrong has been done?

Then it might be wise at times to seek legal reparation or some kind of arbitration to resolve the matter with relevant authorities.

But before doing this, it would be prudent to try to resolve the matter amicably with the person who has caused the offense. Why?

Perhaps it is something you said or did that provoked the offender, though you may not have been aware of it.

Talk the problem over with him or her in a calm and kind manner, trying to understand his or her viewpoint. In this way, the matter might usually be resolved and peaceful relations restored.


It is important to remember that by being unforgiving or irreconcilable, the one we are injuring is ourselves.

Many offenses are not planned but are due to the tendency of error common to all humans.

Hence we should not dwell too much on the offenses cause be others. It only fills our heart with resentment and unhappiness.

Keeping in mind your own inclination towards wrong doing, will help you to be more forgiving to others.

Exercising self-control will also help you from acting in an unwise or selfish manner to seek vengeance.

Thus you will be able to maintain calmness even in the face of provocation and find peaceful means to resolve any irritation that might arise.