How you can stop worrying?

A woman worrying.

Most likely you have at this moment things at the back of your mind about which you have been worrying.

They may be things that perhaps have happened just today or perhaps months and even years ago.

In either case you probably are playing these things over and over again in your mind.

Why can this be dangerous to your health?

How is worry dangerous to your health?

Consider an example given by Dr. Schindler.

He tells of a man who developed a severe dizziness whenever he sat upright.

Although he stayed in bed under the care of a physician for a number of days, there was no improvement.

Then one day it disappeared.


It seems that this man had backed a friend on a loan of a large sum of money.

Later he learned that this friend was hurt in an accident that had kept in a hospital for several days.

It appeared that at the same time his business venture was having cash flow problems, thus he began to worry of what would happen if he was unable to back his friend’s loan.

After his remarkable recovery he told his doctor:

"When I was in the bed, feeling my sickest, my friend for whom I had signed the loan came to visit me, and told me that he had just been over to the bank and paid off the loan in full. From that moment, I started to recover”

Yes, worry can affect your body in a way that is as dramatic as the way it affected this man or it can break you gradually.

It can slowly tear down any part of your physical organism.

Considering the upsetting effect worry can have on you, is it worth it?

But how can you stop worrying?

Let us consider some suggestions:

1. Stop worrying about the past

What has happened in the past you cannot change.

Worry will not correct mistakes.

Instead of worrying about a mistake, determine what you did wrong and then strive not to repeat it.

The unpleasant past is gone.

Do not try to keep it alive in your mind by going over again and again what happened.

Shut it out of your mind!

Concentrate on the present!

2. Stop worrying about the future

As you cannot live yesterday over again, so you cannot live tomorrow until it becomes today.

You can live only one day at a time.

Why make yourself sick worrying about what might happen tomorrow, next week, next month or next year?

You cannot be certain of what actually will happen.

Plan for the future, but do not foolishly worry about things that have not and perhaps will never happen.

Do not try to live the future as well as the present.

There is only one moment you can live and that is right now.

Rather than worry about what might be, search for facts.

When you have them and it seems evident that certain things is going to be, plan for the course of action you will take. With this done, there is no sense in worrying about it any more.

3. Dealing with work load worries

Perhaps you are worry when you see your work load stacking up until it seems like a mountain high. Worrying will not get it done.

No matter how big the mountain you can get over it by taking one thing at a time, just as you can get over a literal mountain by taking one step at a time.

Instead of worrying about the amount of work you have, regard it as a problem to be solved.

Think of ways you can increase your efficiency and output.

This will accomplish much more than worry. If you permit yourself to worry about it, your ability to concentrate will be ruined and your efficiency lowered.

4. Dealing with unexpected happenings

If something has happened that causes you to worry about the ultimate outcome, force yourself to face and accept the worst that is likely to come from it.

Then make plans to adjust to it.

This will help to remove vague imaginings of what might be.

If the worst does not take place, as so often is the case, you will be much better off.

But if it inevitably happens you will still be mentally prepared to deal with it.

5. Stop worrying and start living

Do not weakly contend that you are just a natural a worrier and that there is nothing that can be done about it.

If you want relief from worry, you can discipline yourself to think and act constructively.

You can do it if you really want to.

So, no matter what happens or threatens to happen, refuse to worry.

Face your problems, plan ways to solve it and then try to keep your mind occupied with other things.

Remain calm and cheerful.

You will find this practice to be more productive and healthful than useless worry.