How to stop suicidal feelings?

Suicidal feelings.

The television news program began as usual.

There was a report of a shoot-out at a local bar.

Then, suddenly and without any forewarning, it happened.

The newscaster, a twenty-nine-year-old woman, returned to the screen and announced:

"In living color you are going to see another first—attempted suicide.”

In full view of the television audience, she took a pistol in hand, pointed it at the back of her head and pulled the trigger.

Hours later she was dead.

Cause of suicidal feelings

Recent years have seen an alarming increase in the number of persons who feel unable to cope with life.

Many attempt suicide.

Others ‘go through the motions’ of life severely depressed and miserable.

In many cases people can point to specific reasons for their despair, such as chronic, painful illnesses, becoming maimed in accidents and the losing of loved ones suddenly.

But where people feel like giving up on life, something else is usually present.

How so?

Regarding the newscaster who committed suicide, a friend is quoted as saying that “she became a sniveling self-pitying creature.”

Yes a big factor that leads to suicide idealization is self-pity.

Of course, persons who have experienced tragedies in their lives have reason for a measure of sorrow over their personal circumstances.

But isn't it true that self-pity often gets out of hand?

Learning to cope with day-to-day life calls for getting this inclination under control.

How can one do that?

Dealing with suicidal thoughts

One factor is to realize that excessive self-pity only makes matters worse.

Though not always leading to suicide, it brings on loneliness and, in some cases, even physical disorders.

How can one avoid going to extremes in feeling sorry for oneself?

Since the reasons for it differ from person to person, there is no simple cure-all.

But consider the experiences of a woman who unexpectedly conquered self-pity.

A woman relates feeling sorry for herself because, "after several years of happy married life, I had lost my husband.”

One day this woman, in the depths of despair, boarded a bus and rode it to the end of the line.

After wandering about for a while in a strange area, she entered a church and fell asleep.

Upon awakening she saw two timid, poorly dressed children staring at her from a distance.

Learning that they were orphans, she took them to a store for some refreshments, chatted with them and bought them some presents.

Did this help the woman to cope with the grief of losing her husband?

She continues:

"Those two little orphans did far more for me than I did for them. I was a new person—not only then, but in the years that followed.”

Persons who think that they can no longer cope may feel in need of help, rather than feeling that they are in position to give it.

Nevertheless, doing a kindness for someone else will always lift one’s spirits, making it easier to cope with life.

So do you have suicidal feelings at times?

If so, fight hard against excessive self-pity by seeking out ways to help others.

Though this may not remove the cause of your sorrow, but it will surely help you to cope with the life problems and cultivate more positive thoughts and feelings.