How to learn when other don’t want to?


Indeed it can be quite a challenge to study in an environment where your classmates defy the teachers and do not take their lessons seriously.

Furthermore, there are many sideshows that happen in the classroom such as talking, flirting, fighting that can cause much distraction.

Even if you have not experienced such extremes, it may be easy to give in to the pressure of not want to be considered the geek of the class.

This can cause you to refrain from participating in class discussions or even completing your class assignments.

How can you deal with all these pressures that work against you want to study?

Here are some ideas:

1. Learn to deal with peer pressure

How you deal with peer pressure now will have a profound impact on the direction your life takes later on in life, for better or for worse.

So the sooner you learn to deal with it, the better.

Peer pressure can be either constructive or destructive.

Hence do not give in to pressure that will ultimately ruin your future.

Although the negative consequences of other students neglecting their studies may not be apparent, but it will surely dawn on them not so far away in the distant future.

Remember your fellow students will not be around to help you pick the pieces once your life has been shattered by the decisions you make today.

Therefore, sit in the driver's seat and steer the path of your life to prosperity by turning a deaf ear to all mockery and set your eyes on the ultimate prize-brighter future.

2. Talk to your teachers

Instead of suffering in isolation it would be wise to let you teachers in private know that you would like their help to improve on your studies.

Many teachers would be delighted to receive such a request especially in an environment where many students are apathetic to learning.

They may go all out in their way to offer free advice and remedial lessons for any losses you may experience during normal class hours.

Furthermore, when they notice that you are keen on learning they may help you enhance your learning environment, by giving you a good seating position, place you in a higher achieving class or stemming the tide of harassment from fellow students.

Alexander the Great the greatest military geniuses of all time had this kind words for his teacher:

"I am indebted to my father for living, but to my teacher for living well."

No doubt you will share those sentiments sometime in future if ask for their help now.

3. Choose your friends wisely

Why is it important to choose your friends wisely?

 In order to get an in depth perspective to the question let us first define the word ‘peer’.

According to the Webster’s Dictionarypeer ‘can be defined as:

One of the same rank, quality, endowments, character, etc.; an equal; a match; a mate."

Therefore it will be very hard to rise beyond the rank of your friends as the pressure to be accepted will relegate you to their level.

Hence, if you aspire to succeed in your studies then it will be prudent to choose friends who also share those ideals.

This will act as a motivating force to help you improve on your studies.

So if your friends are discouraging you from taking your studies seriously, then it is time you reconsidered the value of their friendship.

What you need are true friends who will be there for you at all times.

4. Speak out

In his book How Children Fail, John Holt explains why an intelligent student can be ruined by fear.

He makes this observation:

like good soldiers, they control their fears, live with them, and adjust themselves to them. But the trouble is, and here is a vital difference between school and war, that the adjustments children make to their fears are almost wholly bad, destructive of their intelligence and capacity. The scared fighter may be the best fighter, but the scared learner is always a poor learner."

Hence when subjected to severe intimidation or violence from fellow students, it would be wise to inform your teachers or parents to help you alleviate the problem.

This is because if it not addressed it will ultimately affect your studies.

5. Avoid being sidetracked

When your heart is prepared to learn, then it will be easy to ignore all distractions that happen in class.

In order to improve your concentration levels you may take brief notes as the lesson progresses.

Also, pay attention to what is being taught by focusing your eyes on the teacher as he or she speaks while listening judiciously.

And when concentrating in class is simply impossible, you may have no choice but to increase the amount of homework you do.

Even modest efforts along these lines can improve your grades.

Homework allows you the opportunity to apply yourself to your studies in an atmosphere free from constant interruptions.

6. Talk to your parents

Your parents are important stakeholders in your education experience not just because they pay the fees.

They may not be aware of the challenges you are facing but will rightfully demand good grades from you.

So, the more open you are to them about the happenings at school or college, the more sympathetic they will be to your plight. 

They may intervene on your behalf to talk to the teachers, organize home remedial teaching or even put you in a better learning institution.

This will all depend on you maintaining a good and cordial relationship with your parents.