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Happy family dinner conversations.


It is surprising how much time is often spent preparing material food for a family; yet no time may be spent on collecting and preparing the ingredient for dinner conversations, the food for the mind.

Children especially come to the table with not only hungry appetites but with hungry minds.

Parents may be most diligent to see that their children eat physically, but do they provide mental food for their children with the same zest and determination?

In fact, conversations in many homes are not conducive to happiness.

Most families do not get together; the only live together.

They do not communicate ideas, but only debate on things such as what television channel can be agreed upon.

Therefore do not realize how important the right kind of dinner conversations is and in which ways it can be a delightful happy time.

What then, is required for happy conversations at dinner time?

Let us examine some ingredients that help pave way for a happy family dinner.


Cheerfulness and humor



Happy faces and cheerful thought works wonders for digestion.

Humor is a great aid in producing the cheerful atmosphere.

This does not mean constant flow of jokes and puns, but with humor a person can see and express the funny or amusing side of things.

When one has had a humorous experience during the day, share it with one’s family dinner companions.

Look for the laughable side of situations.

Yes the joys of humor come from pointing out the odd, peculiar and funny side of incidents.

However, learn to make a distinction between what is comical and what is crude.

A silly laugh or readiness to laugh on every occasion, regardless of the provocation, should not be confused with a sense of humor.

It might rather indicate the need for self-control and for a more reflective spirit.

So, use humor judiciously in making dinner times a happy time.

In making a dinner happy don’t overdo things, remember to let the food gallop down your esophagus.

This will enable you to enjoy a riotous laugh or a quick reply without choking yourself.

Indeed a cheerful atmosphere paves way for the family members dining together to contribute to one another’s edification and enjoyment.


Edifying topics



Just as variety of food is enjoyed at a dinner, so variety in conversation is desirable.

Though humor is vital ingredient for happy dinner conversations, there is not always a need for the subject matter to provoke laughter.

Conversations may be entertaining and yet be educational; it may be enjoyable and yet contain something worth remembering.

When selecting edifying topics of conversations for dinner guard against ponderousness, that is, subjects that is too heavy to blend in with enjoyable eating.

Much of the enjoyment of a meal is lost if a person must concentrate on some problem or think profoundly on some matter.

If heavy reflection is needed to discuss it, save that subject until after the meal.

Happenings of the day, especially those that are unusual, colorful and entertaining provide conversational food.

There are many are sources, then, for enjoyable, edifying conversations.

Be alert and observing.

Be on the lookout for items of interest to share with other family members at dinner time.


Collective effort



So that all can benefit from a happy dinner conversations, avoid the service station atmosphere.

This is evident when some family members gulp down their food and without saying a word, dash off to attend to other affairs, perhaps no more important than watching television.

Gulp-and-run meal time habits robs the family of a contribution to happy conversations and robs the person indulging in them proper mastication and digestion.

Every member of the family should be encouraged to bring something of interest to the dinner table.

When one has experienced something humorous or has found something of interest, let that one say: ‘This is something for all of us all to enjoy today at the table.’ 

When coming home, instead of telling all of one’s pleasant experiences, save some for dinner.

It will require intelligent planning on the part of parents in particular, but a happy family conversation at dinner time is something for which all should strive for.


Conclusion



So give your home a happy and wholesome conversations at dinner time.

Show cheerfulness and judiciously use humor to lighten the mood.

Make plans for uplifting and interesting conversations.

Let each member of the family put forth effort to contribute something for the happy enjoyment and well-being of all.

Father and daughter.


There are many qualities needed to raise healthy and happy children-love, affection, sympathy, patience and a lot of wisdom.

But the ability to put ourselves in their shoes will help us to understand and enjoy them as they are, not insisting that they be adults before they grow up."

Of course, children need correction and direction.

But even that is not hard for them to take when it comes from someone who seems to understand, not only that children need correction, but also that they have many things to learn and it takes time to do so.

To illustrate this, let as investigate some of aspects of life through children’s eyes.


1. About cleanness



A child’s world is not made up of clean hands and neat clothes.

Rather it is composed of what interest them for the moment.

Of course, their interests quickly change from one thing to another, but while they are interested in one subject nothing else matters.

For example, a little girl may be very pretty in her spotless white dress, but when she spies a tiny kitten, she gives no thought to its being dirty.

All she sees is a helpless little animal that seems to need her love and care.

She takes it into her arms and cuddles it, unmindful of what she is doing to her dress.

That wee living creature caught her attention and to her it was the most important thing.

Or when a boy finds that his bicycle won’t work because a screw is loose or some parts needs oiling, he gets down on the ground not minding that his best pants may be getting more of the dirty than the object that holds his interest.

Patiently we try to teach the children to give some thought to their clothes too, but when we understand their fascination with life, it will makes us more patient in helping them to learn the other lessons they must know.


2. Eager to learn



The curiosity of children seems boundless.

They appear to use their sense to the full because they are hungry for knowledge, and there are so many things that are new to them.

There is hardly anything that they are not curious about.

They have an endless stream of questions.

For example, why do we have a right and a left foot?

Why does our tongue moves around when we talk?

Why do some foods taste bitter and others sweet?

Yet this very curiosity is part and parcel of their growing and learning. This questioning and searching, if encouraged will be an important factor in their own enjoyment of life.

Of course, sometimes it is easier for us to say, “Stop asking so many questions,” than to think and arrive at answers that will satisfy them as well as ourselves.

But if we pause and answer the questions, it will make the children that much aware of things around them and it will help us grow in appreciation of the little things we tend to overlook in the hustle of daily living.

From their childlike ways there are things we adults can learn.

Their eagerness to be taught, their humility and willingness to be taught, these are things worthy of imitation by older persons.

Children learn much from adults, but it is obvious that we can also take lessons from young children.


3. Entertainment



Often we miss so much by showering them with expensive presents and toys, when simple things usually give them the most delight.

But no amount of material can compare with spending time with them.

Try it and you will notice how little it takes to entertain them.

For example, take a walk through a park, hand in hand with a child.

They will laugh when a leaf blows away, run after a bird, be fascinated with a stone.

With curiosity they will examine bugs, stop to listen to the symphony of birds or observe the busy activity of an army of ants and be attracted to various shapes, color of flower and leaves.

Their joy will be your joy as you see life through their eyes.

What a happy times children in general have, and how happier we adults would be if at times we would but pause and capture the excitement and delight that children have in living!

They are absorbed in living each moment to the full and are usually untouched by the problem that tends to make us forget the joy of living.

They bask in the sunlight of their special world, with their games, imaginations and secrets, and if we let them they will gladly share their world with us.


4. Needs of reassurance



When trying to see things from children's standpoint, you realize that to a small child everything seems to be huge and towering above them.

They usually sees grown-ups from a different point of view than do adults.

For instance, children normally see legs and knees before they see faces.

When they observe people hurrying around, often not paying attention to them until they do something wrong, they feel insecure.

How grateful they are when someone notices them and has an encouraging word for them.

How much they need the security that comes from knowing that Dad and Mom are always willing to help!

It is good to encourage children’s efforts to express themselves.

Their point of view may reveal problems, and a problem clearly understood is much easier to solve. But how we respond to their utterances is as important as getting them to express themselves.

In other words, if a child is disrespectful or has done something shocking, needing correction, we should try hard not to let our attitude and tone of voice match our annoyance or frustration.

Of course, this is much easier said than done.

But remember, harsh or belittling replies, such as, “Stupid” or, “Can’t you do anything right?” never improve an already difficult situation.

Many parents have found that extending empathy by giving commendation, especially before counseling, can yield positive results.

Here again is an opportunity to look through a child’s eyes.

Most children are very much aware when such commendation is given with an ulterior motive or when it is not from the heart.

Therefore, when giving commendation to our children, we should make sure that the praise is genuine and deserved.


Conclusion



Do you have children?

They are lots of work, as you know.

But take time to enjoy them while they are young.

Soon they will become adults and those years of their childhood will be gone.

So make their childhood years, years in which you recapture the joys of youth and in which you lay a foundation on which your children can build with success.

In truth it can be said that no matter what good advice or wise counsel we read, there is no shortcut to bringing up a son or a daughter.

It requires patience, love, understanding, and consideration.

But a great help toward success is to learn to see and understand the behavior of your young one “through a child’s eyes".

A secretary.


Loss of employment can be a severe blow to a person, especially when one has monthly bills to pay. It can cause a great amount of anxiety.

But whether you have had the experience of losing a job or not, it is wise to know what can be done to avoid being fired or being among those that an employer lets go when he finds it necessary to reduce his staff.

There are certain things you can do that will help you to keep your job or at least keep some kind of employment.

Here are some suggestions:


(1) Upgrade skills



One of the best assurances of steady employment is for a person to upgrade oneself by developing a new marketable skill or improving the one a person has.

If you decide to develop a new skill, you should first investigate to find out what skills are in demand and what training opportunities are available.

Rather than waiting until you are laid off before beginning such training, it would be wise to start it before you are out of a job.

Your mind will be much freer to concentrate on what you are studying when you have money coming in to pay your bills than when you are unemployed.


(2) Maintain good working habits



There is great value in taking stock of yourself to see how you can strengthen your hold on your job. Perhaps you have developed habits that are weakening your position.

Do you have the same enthusiasm or show the same diligence and regard for your job as when you first began working on it?

There is a tendency among people to become lax after working at a job for several months or years.

Then their interest wanes.

They get into the habit of being late for work, of wasting time on the job and of making only half-hearted effort to do their work. It is easy to forget how much one really needs the job.

By reviewing you work habits objectively from time to time, you can note what you are doing that reduces your value to your employer.

Instead of being habitually late for work, make it a point to arrive a little early so that you can be at your job before the starting time.

You make a better impression on the management when you are working before time rather than coming late or just standing about waiting for the starting hour.

The same holds true at the end of working hours.

It is easy to get into the habit of watching the clock and stopping working a little before quitting time.

The impression you make is much better when the time reaches and even goes a little beyond it before you start packing your belongs.


(3) Maintain good productivity



The employee that performs poorly, having low output, is actually a drag on the business.

The cost for his labor is not being balanced out by his productivity.

This does not help a business to compete with competitors.

Low productivity raises production costs.

The higher those costs go the less profits a business will make, especially in a highly competitive market.

Therefore if you get into the habit of wasting time during the day, producing less than you are capable of doing, how can you expect to be among those that your employer will keep when he trims his staff?

Therefore a person should realize that he or she has better chances of keeping ones job by having a high productive output with good quality than if he or she has a low output.

It is only right that you give the employer the time he pays for, as well as the best of your talent and effort.

When you do so, you become a valuable employee that your boss will want to keep.


(4) Be dependable



It is only logical that an employer, when trimming the payroll, will favour a regular and dependable person rather than one who is not.

It often means more to him to have a worker that he can depend on being on the job than one with greater skill but cannot be relied on.

An employer wants a worker he can depend on to do what he is told, not the one that is better at thinking up excuses than doing the work.

There is a case of building contractor who had a worker that was not particularly skilled, but he could always count on that man being at work and working hard while there.

Whenever there was a seasonal drop in the construction work and some workers had to be laid off, he would keep this man on the payroll.

The person that can be depended upon to be on and produce, as in the case of this man, recommends himself as a desirable employee and usually keeps his job.


(5) Be trustworthy



An employer does not want to keep a worker who will glibly lie or tells half-truths to explain away his failures, his mistakes, fraudulent activities or his laziness.

He can never be certain that he can trust such a person or that the person will be on hand to do the job or, if there, to do it properly.

For example, employers realize that during the course of a year an employee might get sick and must be away from work for a few days.

But this provision does not mean a person should claim to be sick when he is not, just so he can use up the sick leave.

Such dishonesty does not build up respect from his employers.

No matter how understanding an employer may be he or she is certain to lose patience with the person who repeatedly not at work for no particular reason.

It is evident that a person who can be trusted is more valuable than a talented person who is not.

Being trustworthy will certainly strengthen your job security.

Your loyalty to the employer will be gladly appreciated and rewarded.


(6) Maintain good work attitude



Although you may dislike the type of work you have been told to do or how it is to be done, it is unwise to manifest openly your dislike for it.

It can create a bad impression with your employer and co-workers.

Instead be respectful of your employer and considerate of your fellow employees.

Be willing to accept instructions and corrections.

If you have the attitude that you know it all and cannot be told to do anything or that your capabilities are far superior to position you hold, you are not likely to hold your job for long, much less make any advancement.

Thus endeavor in maintaining a cordial working relationship with your employer and co-workers.


Conclusion



Within reason, a person can serve the interest of his employer with diligence, ability, loyalty, honesty and dependability.

This will give his or her employer solid reasons for keeping him on the job.

By being conscious of what you can do to keep your job can do much to avoid the unpleasant experience of being unemployed.

By applying some of the suggestions discussed, you can get a firmer hold on your job.

A euro note burning.


A 52 year old man stood in deep sorrow one morning looking at what was left of his factory.

It had burned to the ground.

As he stood looking at the smoldering heaps of ashes, he said to his wife:

“There goes are all our hopes, all our savings and all our plans. Well, I guess we've lost everything”

“Everything?” asked a friend who was standing nearby.

“Yes, everything,” was the bitter reply.

“There is no hope. I’m too old to start all over again.”

“But isn't this your wife” the friend asked.

“Yes, she’s a good wife, she has stuck with me all this years” was the answer.

“You have a wonderful wife, devoted children, friends, neighbors, your health and you say you have lost everything. Supposed you lost these instead of your factory; then how you would feel?” inquired the friend.

Then it dawn on him that throughout the years he had become so engrossed in making a living that he lost sight of the things that counts most in life, things that money cannot buy.


Limitations of money



There is no need to condemn money itself.

We can appreciate the truthfulness of this, for it is almost impossible to take care of feeding, clothing and housing without money.

We also need it to meet other needs such as piped water, electricity, heating transportation and hospital care.

Hence, money has a place in life and it is well to grant it its proper place.

But making money one’s primary goal is the greatest folly, because money can fail when human needs are greatest.

For example, when life is engulfed in sorrow because of a loss of a loved one in death, what can money do to wipe away the sorrow?

When youth fades and old age sets in, what can money do to restore one’s lost youthful vigor?

When health fails, what joy, hope or satisfaction is there in knowing that one’s vault is filled with money?

Thus, the sensible thing is to realize that money has limitations and that it cannot buy everything.


What money can’t buy?



There are things far more valuable than money.

Life is not to be compared with money.

You cannot buy life with money nor can money buy a child’s devotion, a mother’s affection or father’s compassion.

If you were blind, living your days in darkness, what would you give to be able to see?

How much would it be worth to see your family and friends?

What price for a glorious sunset, for a chance to see a flower grow and blossom?

Block out all sounds from your ears someday.

It is shocking how empty and lonely a place this earth can suddenly become without the pleasant words of a loved one, the sound of laughter, the voice of a child, the song of birds, the enjoyment of music and the hum of everyday life.

Even the sound of your own voice is a reassuring.

These are things money can’t buy.


Conclusion



Indeed, money is important in meeting our daily physical needs.

However, do not falsely assume that, what little wealth fails to give, great wealth will accomplish.

With your wealth you can buy goods, but not happiness.

No doubt you work hard to get money; such hard work is part of life.

But as we have learned, the things of the most enduring value are the ones that money cannot buy.

Treasure those things daily in your life.


A cute family.


Nevertheless, in a society where the family is the basic unit it is proper that a man should take his responsibility as husband seriously.

Some husbands, though, have difficulty in adjusting themselves to the home environment because of the highly competitive atmosphere in which they must work all day, where the big-man-kick-little-man attitude often alienates the boss from his workers.

The boss wants to get as much out of his workers as he can.

His presence will stimulate activity, but will not always be welcome.

Perhaps you would like to improve conditions under which you work but are not in position to do so.

However, you can do something about conditions in the home where you are the husband.

Your homecoming can be something that the whole family looks forward to, or it can be a time when your wife says, “Look out, kids, your father’s coming!"


Being a loving husband



Something that makes any of us feel good is when the boss comes along, notices the good work we are doing and commends us.

Nothing is more discouraging than always to have one’s mistakes noticed and bad work returned, while good work seemingly goes unnoticed, taken for granted.

When we stop to think about it, we know that we are getting paid for doing the job right, but we still appreciate a little pat on the back.

Now, if a husband feels that way, would it not be reasonable to conclude that a wife does too?

She will soon sense it if her housekeeping and cooking are being taken for granted.

She works hard to have the house clean and the meal ready on time.

Or perhaps she has spent a lot of time looking through magazines to find a new recipe.

She has changed her dress and tidied her hair, and now here comes her husband.

Coat thrown there, shoes kicked off there, he gobbles down the meal without noticing anything different, and then sinks back in the armchair buried in a newspaper.

What a disappointment! If only he had said something that showed a little appreciation.

It would have required very little effort, and it would have meant so much.

Empathy, putting oneself in the place of the other person makes all the difference.

It can turn a boss-like husband into a loving husband.

All right, so you have been pushed around all day, but why make your home as unpleasant as the place where you work?

Why not make it a place where there is an atmosphere of love and mutual refreshment?

This points to the importance of having a happy home environment.

It comes about, not regardless of what the husband does, but because of what he does. How much effort do you expend in this regard?

You may be very generous, showering your wife with gifts but have you noticed that there is not the same response as there used to be.

Perhaps she feels that your gift-giving has become perfunctory.

If this is the case, use a little more initiative, giving a gift when it is not expected.

It is not that the gift is an expensive one, but it comes as a surprise and says,

"Thank you, Darling, for all the effort and cooperation in making our home such a happy place.”

Therefore, always having empathy, commend wherever possible and being alert to ways of showing appreciation.

You can avoid the reputation of being just a family boss and show that you really are a loving husband.

Family enjoying weekend.

"How was your weekend?” Is that not a familiar question? It is a question asked worldwide, probably being repeated millions of times every Monday morning. Just as common is the inquiry: “What are you doing this weekend? Have you made any plans?” 

Definitely, anywhere you go, on all continents, weekend activities are a chief topic of conversation.

To most persons, weekend means one or two days off from regular routine of work.

This provides various opportunities, depending on where you live.

In some places, soccer has become a national pastime and on weekends people flock from far and near to attend games.

In other places, people still use the weekends primarily to visit friends or sit around and relax, while others go to the seashore, run to the mountains, race to some resort area.

Just as long as one is going somewhere or is pursuing some activity that is considered pleasurable.

However, there is growing evidence indicating that most people are incapable of using leisure time constructively.

Therefore, instead of the weekends equipping them for more productive work, it increases tensions and ruins working efficiency. Thus, one may ask, are weekends beneficial?



Weekends a pleasure or plague?



A man floating in beer.


Weekends should be a pleasure, not a plague.

Why?

Because they allow people time to pursue interests that they enjoy.

In this mechanized age so many persons serve like cogs in a machine, performing one operation over and over again.

Weekends allow for a break in this monotonous routine.

They provide a change that can contribute towards a person’s physical and emotional well-being.

However, it is not uncommon to see persons obliterate their entire weekend, getting drunk on a Friday night and not sobering up again until Monday morning.

So, invariably then, one has to require another day to recuperate.

Hence, come Monday morning instead of having a feeling of satisfied contentment, a person is exhausted physically and emotionally bankrupt.

In evidence of this are accidents, mistakes and the general inefficient operations that have come to be associated with “blue Monday.”

On the other side, others apparently feel they have no place to go and can think of nothing to do.

So, they sit and stare at the four walls of their apartment or idly roam the streets.

Their weekends are far from pleasurable.

For them it can be said, ‘Saturday night is the loneliest night of the week.’

Therefore it would be appropriate that we consider suggestions on how one might make wise use of their weekends.


 More productive use of weekends



Picture of a lawn mower.


A pleasurable weekend is one that is built around a constructive change of activity.

The purpose of a day off is to recuperate.

Of course, for persons who are away from their homes most of the week, there may be many things around the house that need attention, such as cleaning, house repairs and mowing the lawn to mention a few.

If that is the case, tackle the job and get it out of the way.

There is great satisfaction in getting a job done.

Weekends also can provide time for partying and traveling, this done in moderation can enhance to your social well-being.

For an enjoyable weekend, make your plans in advance.

Do not just wait to see what turns up.

Too often unplanned weekends turn out to be “lost weekends.”

Plan to take a hike in the woods, for a swim in a lake or beach, or engage in some hobby you like. Activities such as these are up building, refreshing and a source of real satisfaction.

 Indeed, there are so many possibilities for weekend activities, but plan constructively.

However, be reasonable and do not try to crowd too many things into a weekend, nor unnecessarily make certain activities a regular weekend feature.

If you keep this mental attitude weekends will be a pleasure and never gravitate into a plague.

Weekends can also be a good time to strengthen family ties by doing things together.

Families should find pleasure in being together, and they do when parents take the initiative in planning activities in which all can share.

This may require a little thought and effort, but the rewards will be well worth it.

Youngsters will enjoy so much doing things with their parents and wives will draw closer to their husbands.

Conclusion


So endeavor to make wise use of your weekends.

Rather than allowing them to be a time of loneliness or days of dissipation in a mad pursuit of unproductive activities, plan so they afford you pleasurable relaxation and opportunity to do things you really enjoy.

Doing so will mark a weekend well spent.

A woman working.


If you give a person a job to do, would you rather have him fulfill it, or ignore it unless you stand over him?

When someone has an appointment with you, would you rather have him come on time or be late?

When you purchase a machine, do you want one that runs, or one that is constantly malfunctioning?

Almost everybody will recognize the desirability of the former in each instance.

We like people to be on time for work. We want them to fulfill work obligations.

And we want machines that work.

In each case the desired quality is dependability. 

There is little doubt that almost everyone wants dependability in other persons, and in things they may be using.

But what is often more difficult is for the person himself to be that way.

If you want people to be dependable, are you?

If you want them to be on time for appointments, are you?

If you want others to be dependable when they work for you, are you careful to be dependable when working for others?

Yes, dependability works both ways.

If it is good for the other fellow to be that way, it surely must be good for each one, individually, to be that way also.

Your desire for dependability in others is shared equally by their desire for you to be dependable when dealing with them.

But wanting dependability in others, and being that way oneself, are two different things. 

It is relatively easy to want dependability from others, but not as easy to be dependable oneself. Why?

For one thing, not everybody is dependable, and that sets a bad example for others.

In fact, more and more the trend in the world is away from dependability and toward getting as much for as little effort as possible.

This is hardly conducive to encouraging dependability in the majority of people.

For another thing, dependability comes hard because it is not a trait that we inherit from our parents. 

It must be taught, cultivated and practiced before it becomes habitual.

We can see the lack of it in young children.

Can you expect your child to be dependable in keeping his clothes clean, in brushing his teeth, or in putting things away, or even in being honest, unless you take the time to teach him those things? 


Why be dependable?



But if dependability is hard to come by, and the trend is away from it, what is the motive for wanting to be dependable ourselves?

The motive is that it is right, regardless of what anyone else may choose to do, and that it benefits others and ourselves as well.

It is like the matter of morality.

It is right to be moral, regardless of the fact that others may be immoral. 

And being moral benefits others and the one who practices it, physically as well as mentally.

It is the same with being dependable.

The logic of this is evident, for who would trust a person with a big job if he was undependable in a small one?

If a man could not get along with his fellow workers in a department, would it be logical for the company to make him personnel director for the entire firm?

If a man were unable to be a cashier because he could not add or subtract correctly, would he be asked to be the head bookkeeper of a company?

No, only when dependability is demonstrated on the lesser task is someone ready for one that is greater.


Benefits of being a dependable person



Being dependable brings many benefits.

It means you will work better, keeping your employer satisfied.

It will enable you to keep the arrangements you make with others, and on time, making you a more desirable associate.

In the family circle, being dependable as a husband or wife will make for a happier family relationship.

Think, too, of other benefits it can bring you individually.

For instance, a person who has learned to be dependable in putting things where they belong can depend upon their being there when he looks for them.

He will not have to spend much time and undergo aggravation searching for them.

Also, if one cultivates the habit of allowing enough time to keep appointments, he saves himself trouble and irritation, because the perpetual latecomer is usually rushing and is often upset because he is late.

The dependable person is happier in his work.

The one who is not dependable must always be worried about whether his employer will find out about his bad work habits.

He must be making excuses for poor work.

He is usually on the defensive, for he knows he should do better, but does not.

That is no way to achieve satisfaction in one’s work. 

But when one cultivates the habit of being dependable at work, he knows that he has done what is required, what is right, and can enjoy peace of mind.

Yes, in just about everything we can do in life there will be an improvement if we are dependable.

Our work, family life, associations, yes, even our own self-respect will benefit.

So be dependable in all things!

Saying no.


Do you want to take the wise course, the course that really pays? Then, at times, you must be able to say “No.”
Not being able to say no has brought distress and regrets to countless persons.

Saying no at the right is so important. Are you able to say no? To whom you may ask?

Wisdom and right principles often requires that we say no to ourselves. You know your weakness, be alert to them when temptations arise.


When it matters to say No

 

If you are overweight you must be able to say no at the dinner table long before you feel full. Is this difficult for you? But you well know that the result is worth it.

Or does your weakness happen to be spending money injudiciously? Then put up your guard and force yourself to say no, no, no, when shopping or passing tempting window displays.

If laziness is your vulnerable spot then you must say no to yourself when tempted by sleep late or when there is work to be done about the house, especially when you see an opportunity to loaf on the job.

Then again, ever so many people are unable to say no to the TV, but cultivating self-control along these lines is to your best interests. And since the heart is deceitful, guard against the path that leads to temptation.

Then there is matter of saying no to the importunity of friends.

Your best friends may well be your worst enemies when they entice you to pamper yourself, to yield to temptation, when they say, “Take it easy!” when you know full well you should exert yourself.

Yes, when temptation is sugar coated by the kindness of friends, then especially you must be able to say no.

Can you say no to sale talk? Be on guard; do not let the flattery of a clever salesman make you easy prey. You are the steward of your money, earned or yet to be earned.

Do not follow the modern trend of burdening yourself down with a lot of debts to be paid later.

If you make it a rule to buy only what you are able to pay for, then it will be a great help in saying no to all manner of inducements and may save you many regrets later.

Or at times circumstances may throw you into close association with bad companions at your place of work, or at school should you be a student.

 When they seek to entice you to join them in wrong doing, you must be able to say no. Do not argue with them. There are simply no merits in their offers, only bitter regrets you will reap.

Being able to say no may be especially important for those having oversight, such as school teachers, foremen, superintendents, presiding minister and suchlike.

They should not be unduly swayed by the desire to be a good fellow, to be popular, so as to fail to say No when they should.

Especially parents must be able to say no to their offspring when wisdom dictates that they should be firm.

But there is also the matter of how to say no to their children and do so understandingly, giving reasons or explanations, being aware how the refusal will be felt by the child.

Coupling kindness with firmness will help the child realize that love and principle are at work.

However, there is yet another aspect of this matter of saying no. Be sure that saying no is not just a bad habit.

There is a time to say yes even as there is a time to say no. Do not let your saying no be merely a matter of being uncooperative, indifferent or miserly.

Do not say no to some generous impulse you feel if you are able to act upon it to the benefit of others.

When it comes to being helpful, when asked to assist emergency, be generous as opportunity requires and your means permit.


Conclusion



So when it comes to your own weakness, bad desires, mistaken kindness of others, those who would exploit you, by all means say no and mean it.

However, say yes when occasion or subject deserves it.


Woman freedom.


Do you want to be free?

Likely you do.

Indeed, every sane person wants to be free.

Freedom is a most desirable condition for humans.

This means the freedom really to enjoy life.

Then why does freedom for all not exist in this world?

Well, this is because some people do not appreciate the fundamental truth that there has to be respect for law and order by all for such freedom to be enjoyed by all.

Let us look at some examples to illustrate this:


Freedom at home, on streets elusive



However, if you live in one of these lands commonly regarded as free, ask yourself: Do you feel free to walk down any street at night?

Do you feel free to enjoy any park after dark?

Do you feel free to leave the doors and windows of your home unlocked?

Even in the most democratic lands, large segments of the population are fearful of walking down dark streets.

They avoid parks at night.

They have locks on the doors and windows of their homes.

And their places of business are similarly protected.

Is this freedom?

In fact fear has become a dominant factor in the many people’s life.

Small-town residents hesitate to visit the big cities.

Women are afraid to go out at night.

Many city-factory areas have become ghostly armed camps at night, with dogs, searchlights and alarm systems alerted against intruders.

More home doors are locked.

The old breezy reception of strangers is contracting.

Assault is accepted as a normal risk.

Even in suburban areas and small towns, people often do not feel secure in their own homes because of mounting crime and violence.

Thus, even in “free” countries large segments of the population live as though they were being besieged by an enemy army.

Really, then, how free are persons who have to live like that?


Freedom in school elusive



Throughout the world, high schools, colleges and even grade schools are plagued by disorders.

Students who want to proceed with their education are at times denied that freedom by the disruption.

In many countries, some schools have been shut down for long periods because of protests and rioting.

In one city a band of about twenty youths invaded a high school during classes.

They tied two teachers to their chairs and taped their mouths shut.

The youths then harangued students with political tirades.

In another instance, a group of demonstrators was invited into the school to discuss grievances.

While the talks were in progress, several of the group went into classrooms and told the children to go home.

In many other instances, teachers have been assaulted, students intimidated, classes broken up.

In one city, it is reported; teachers are so terrified that three out of four now carry guns to class!

Without a doubt many student protesters are genuinely disgusted with the horrible conditions in the world.

They see injustices, prejudice, poverty, war, and they are indignant.

Yet, other students also feel incensed at these things but do not choose to resort to disruption or violence.

They want to be able to continue their education.

So when the forms of redressing grievances disrupt classes or result in violence and injury, is this not an interference with the freedom of other students?

Is it freedom when teachers quit out of fear?


Economic freedom elusive



The economic situation also works against freedom in many cases today.

For example, is everyone really free to do work that he wants and enjoys?

How many people do you know who actually have the kind of work that brings them genuine satisfaction?

Is it not a fact that people more often work at what they can get, or what pays better, rather than at what they really like?

Even those who may prefer a certain trade sometimes find themselves unable to use it because of various policies of management or labor unions.

Is this freedom?

Also, how free are you even to breathe fresh air?

Million tons of pollutants are now spewed into the air each year, most of it potentially lethal gases.

Large corporations continue to pollute the air even when there are laws against it.

They merely pay the fine, which is usually small, and go right on polluting.

Is endangering the health of others not a perversion of freedom?


Freedom at sports events elusive



When one baseball team won the title in their division, their fans rejoiced.

But then what happened?

The New York Times reported:

The Shea Stadium playing field looked like the pock-marked surface of the moon yesterday. But no American flag was flying, because it had been stolen. In fact, almost everything not tacked down was snatched by rampaging fans.”

The head grounds keeper said in disbelief:

I've never seen damage to a field to this extent. From 1,000 to 1,500 feet of the sod on the playing field was ripped out, taken as “souvenirs” by the crowd.

And the field was littered with papers and cans.”

Does freedom mean that one has the right to seize and destroy the property of others?

If your neighbor ripped out your lawn, defaced the walls of your house, smashed the windows and stole your furniture, would you regard these actions as expressions of freedom?

Or would you regard them as criminal acts?


Freedoms have to be within a framework of law and order



True freedom does not mean the absence of laws that are right and beneficial.

To enjoy freedom safely it must be within the framework of law.

The universe is kept in marvelous harmony by the laws in operation.

These laws work for the good of humans.

For instance, do you feel oppressed by gravity?

It keeps you from flying off the earth to certain death.

It enables you to move about without the constant strain of weightlessness.

However, what if you were to deliberately ignore the law of gravity and jump from a high building? You would fall to your death or be severely injured.

You cannot ignore these laws without paying a penalty.

Yet, when you work within their framework, you reap the benefits.

If there were no laws to govern the universe, nature would be in anarchy.

Human life would soon be extinguished.

How grateful we should be for these dependable laws!

Because of them we know that the sun will come up each day.

The earth will continue in its proper orbit, with proper tilt and rotation.

Humans cannot liberate themselves from laws.

They either enjoy freedoms within their law bounds, or ignore them, to their own hurt.