How to cope with irritations of every day life?


An irritated woman.

When an elderly woman admitted to her grandchildren that she had never ridden on a train, they bought her a  ticket to a nearby town where a  friend lived.

Elated, she got on the train and, after arranging her packages, settled down.

Soon she noticed the upholstery was somewhat torn.

Crumbling, she picked up her belongings and looked for another seat.

Soon she was annoyed by the whimpering of an infant across the aisle.

She moved again.

But here the sun seemed too bright, so she moved to another part of the car.

Hardly had she begun looking out the window to enjoy the scenery when the conductor called out the name of the town.

Stunned that her trip was at an end, she remarked to her friend that she wished she had not spent so much time in being annoyed.

Triumph over petty annoyances

Waiting at an airport terminal.

By failing to triumph over petty annoyances many persons of all ages miss out on much enjoyment and make themselves unnecessarily miserable.

Missing a bus, streetcar or subway train by a few seconds may upset some persons so much that their blood pressure jumps up.

And some become upset if the train in which they are traveling is a few minutes late.

Others cannot triumph over a little irritation such as an unexpected interruption or a momentary flickering on the television screen.

Some motorists give way to heavy honking at the slightest slowdown in traffic.

An untactful remark or some slight lack of consideration by a friend or neighbor can disquiet many persons for days.

So one could spend a great deal of time being agitated, especially since there will be petty annoyances in every walk of life.

Service in a restaurant may be delayed and some persons, not really pressed for time, may become quite irritated, so much so that they can hardly enjoy their meal when it arrives.

One person’s failure to conquer a trifle may be contagious, so we should guard that the discomposure of someone else does not upset us.

If one in a group turns irritable over a trifle, what could be done?

Everyone’s freezing up and engendering a chilly silence is not the solution.

Ridiculing the irritated person is not the way either.

Some persons solve such matters by finding the bright side of the subject and kindly commenting on it or by tactfully changing the conversation to some interesting topic.

Talk on up building and cheerful things and thus help the disturbed person conquer the trifle.

Will we let trifles conquer us or will we conquer them?

The good qualities by which one can overcome petty disappointments and nuisances are those of self-control, patience and love.

Generally the conquers trifles by letting them pass by without harping on them.

If we are seeking love, if we want to earn the love of another, we will overlook his transgression and not make it a subject of common gossip.

We cannot expect the habits of others always to please us; but if we have love we put into practice the fact that love “does not look for its own interests.”

Conquer trifles by do sometimes, for the sake of many persons, small faults may need to be brought to someone’s attention, but the manner in which we do this shows whether we have conquered trifles.

To reprove small faults with vehemence and agitation is as absurd as if a person should take a hammer to swat a fly on his friend’s forehead.

Since minor irritations will enter one’s life, we can learn a lesson from the oyster.

When an irritation enters the life of an oyster, the animal does not like it, and he tries to get rid of it.

But when he cannot get rid of the irritation he settles down to make one of the most beautiful things in nature.

He uses the irritation to make a pearl.

So when an irritation comes into your life, make a pearl out of it, though it may have to be a pearl of patience.

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How to use your strength efficiently while working?

A woman taking a nap.

Do often feel tired, worn out, before the end of your workday?

If so, you can take comfort from the fact that you are by no means alone.

Yet one cannot help but notice that some people tire out less quickly than do others; they seem to get more done with less expenditure of their strength.

For them work is a pleasure, as it should be.

Wisely humans are equipped for working.

Humans were supplied with strong bones and muscles so that he could do needed physical work, and an amazing brain with which they do all manner of mental work.

They also constituted emotionally so as to get satisfaction and happiness from doing good and useful work.

What will help you to make the most of your strength while working?

Taking an interest in your work

Excited about work.

One thing that will greatly help is taking an interest in your work.

How so?

Because of the power of the emotions over the body.

When a young boy’s mother asks him to do some chores about the house, he may plead that he is tired.

But the next minute he may be expending all manner of energy playing ball with his youthful neighbors.

He finds the one activity emotionally satisfying, but not the other.

By taking a real interest in your work you can make it emotionally rewarding and so easier to do.

And you can spark your interest in your work by analyzing why it is necessary, why it is work that needs to be done.

Also you can increase your interest in it by reminding yourself of your own reason for doing it: because it supplies the necessities of life for yourself and your loved ones.

And you can further increase your interest in your work by giving thought to improving the quality of it, or your efficiency in doing it.

The resulting satisfaction will help you to dispel any feeling of boredom, which so often keeps a person from making the most of his strength while working.

Arranging of your tools or materials well

Well arranged medical equipment.

If you would make the most of your strength while working, you also do well to learn to avoid unnecessary movements.

A help in this regard is the arranging of your tools or materials in the most convenient way.

Modern kitchens are designed so as to require a minimum of steps on the part of the housewife as she prepares her meals.

She can use this principle in everything she does.

So can the farmer, the mechanic, the carpenter and others.

Employers often handsomely reward employees who come up with practical suggestions for improving the efficiency of an operation.

For this very purpose efficiency experts are hired.

Helpful in this regard is using both hands whenever doing so makes a task easier or quicker to do.

When lifting heavy objects, do not put the whole strain on your back by just bending over, but bend your knees so as to utilize the strength of your leg muscles.

Failure to do this has caused many people to rupture needlessly.

On the other hand, do not involve more of your body than is needed to perform a certain task.

Do not involve your whole arm when only your wrists or forearms are required to move.

Proper training should not be overlooked.

Often haste to get going on a job causes one to neglect proper instruction or training and so one proceeds in a manner that is not efficient and wastes much time and strength.

For example, one may acquire a typewriter and find much use for it.

But if one does not take the time first to learn to use it correctly, by the “touch” system, one will use just a finger of each hand, the so-called “hunt and peck” system, which is no system at all.

Not only is such typing slower and less likely to be accurate, but it is also far more wearying.
Being able to pace yourself is also helpful in conserving your strength while working.

If you are both nervous and conscientious, you most likely are prone to go just as fast as you can go.

As a result you are likely to make more mistakes as well as to be exhausted before your workday is ended. 

Regulate your rest, eating  and sleep well

A man taking a nap.

Learn to control your eagerness and to adopt a calm, steady pace.

Then you will not be exhausted before quitting time and will even have some strength left for the evening hours.

Another factor to consider, if you would make the most of your strength while working, is not to burden yourself by overeating.

Too rich and too heavy meals tend to slow you down and make application to tasks at hand more laborious.

Such meals also tend to make you overweight, and the fat person often finds all manner of physical work much harder to do.

It is important to get sufficient rest and sleep.

The amount of strength you have in the first place depends to a considerable extent on what you do each night.

Do not pursue pleasures so avidly that doing your work becomes a hardship or boring.

In particular is adequate sleep essential to restore your mental and nervous energy.

It is even more vital than food and drink.

But regardless of your vocation in life, it is the course of wisdom to give thought to making the most of your strength while working.

It results not only in efficiency but also in satisfaction and enjoyment of your work.

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What a parent and others can do for a premature baby?

Picture of a baby in a incubator.

Further, the baby’s head may seem a trifle large in proportion to the rest of the body, but this is nothing to be alarmed about.

As the baby approaches its full-term-delivery date, it will acquire more fat and begin manifesting the more symmetrical appearance of a full-term babe.

As to any special needs that the tiny tot may have, these range from few to many.

Each case is different.

But milestones have been reached.

Modern technology along with devoted hospital personnel and a superabundance of TLC from parents have resulted in a remarkable survival rate.


What parents can do

A mother with a premature newborn.

Parents, you especially can do much for your premature newborn.

Naming the child soon after birth is encouraged, as this draws parents and infant close together in a relationship that actually enhances the progress of the “earlycomer.” 

After the baby’s condition is stabilized, a foremost concern is to establish physical contact with the infant.

Caressing, gently stroking, and lightly massaging the baby’s skin may be appropriate, particularly if the baby cannot be held as yet.

And what could be more reassuring to the little one than to hear mom and dad’s voices expressed in soft humming, sweet lullabies, or whispered words of endearment?

On the other hand, when the baby is very premature, there is reason for caution.

 Dr. Peter A. Gorski, who spent two years recording preemie behavior, says:

They’re easily overwhelmed, and they crash. I’ve had babies so overtaxed by the social interaction of eye contact that they go limp. What seems kindly to us may not always be best.”

Visiting the baby as often as possible will certainly help to strengthen your relationship with him.

If, because of circumstances, you are not able to visit your little one physically, tape recordings of family members talking and other home sounds can be sent to the hospital for your baby to hear.

An article of clothing from mother, which even though laundered still retains her unique scent, might be placed in the incubator, or isolette.

Some have set a picture of mom, dad, or brothers and sisters about ten inches [25 cm] from the baby.

Consider the situation of Elise, who arrived ten weeks earlier than had been expected.

She weighed 3 pounds 5 ounces [1,500 g].

Her parents were permitted to visit her only twice a week.

Her mother, Betty, observes:

“I did not have the closeness with Elise that I had with my first baby and the three children born after her.Yet, through the years we have grown close, and Elise has turned out to be one of the most helpful and pleasant of the children.”

Mother can provide the perfect food for the premature baby, her breast milk.

Canadian scientists in Toronto found that milk of mothers of preemies is different in composition from milk of mothers of full-term infants, and prematures fare better with it.

According to The Journal of the American Medical Association, “the premature infant [is] better able to use the protein and other nutrients of breast milk for growth.”


What others can do

Group of friends.

Are you a friend or a relative of a preemie’s parents?

If so, there is much you can do.

There are groceries to be bought, meals to be cooked, housework to be done, clothing to be laundered, and perhaps other children to be cared for.

Your support in these mundane matters can be most helpful to parents who must make frequent and often long trips to visit their baby in a neonatal intensive care unit.

Christy, the mother of an infant born over five weeks early, said that her brothers and sisters supplied all of the above.

“They were a constant source of joy and strength to us in those first few weeks,” she said.

Support can also be given by sending cards and gifts.

The gifts may include anything you would obtain for a full-term infant.

The size of the infant must be taken into consideration, of course.

Preemie-size disposable or cloth diapers are available, as well as preemie patterns and clothing.

Emotional support cannot be overemphasized.

Be positive and optimistic.

Kelly’s mom, Mary, said:

“I needed people to be encouraging and say up building things. I hated it when some would say, ‘Don’t get too attached.’ I thrived on hope.” 

Both mothers, Christy and Mary, said that the support they received from their husbands was immeasurable and that the experience drew them closer together.

Prevention—The wise course 

Picture of a pregnant woman.

There is wisdom in expending more effort in trying to prevent premature births rather than in simply caring for preemies afterward.

According to one study made in the United States, for every hour a pregnancy between 24 and 28 weeks is prolonged, $150 is saved in hospital care.

So it would be beneficial to include information on premature births in your “prenatal library” and to have a plan of action ready in case a premature birth occurs.

But more importantly, a prospective mother should try to prevent having a premature birth.

First, a pregnant woman should not smoke.

Smoking during pregnancy evidently damages fetal arteries, according to a report in Medical World News.

A Cornell University professor commented:

That fetal vessels are injured, I think, goes along with what we know about the low birthweights and high incidence of congenital malformations and premature separations among babies of women who smoke.” 

Second, if you are pregnant, you should steer clear of overly strenuous activities, such as heavy lifting.

Third, avoid situations that may cause physical or emotional trauma.

If you are at high risk of delivering a preemie, you should consult with a person, such as an obstetrician, who has had experience in caring for pregnant women.

Women at high risk include those who previously have given birth to a premature child, those who are carrying more than one child, those who are over 40 years of age or are teenagers, and those who use alcoholic beverages immoderately.

Among other things that put a woman in the high-risk category are high blood pressure, diabetes, and abnormalities of the placenta.

Such women need to have their pregnancy monitored more closely.

Be sure to observe a proper prenatal diet to ensure the best possible health for you and your baby. 

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