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Thinking about future.

Young or old, rich or poor, sick or healthy, you have a future, for the word “future” means “time that is to come.”

And everyone reaches the future at the same rate of 60 minutes an hour.

What that future will bring for you, however, depends on how you view it and plan for it.

Your future consists of more than just the time that remains of your present life.

It also includes how you use that time, the plans you have made, the goals you have set.

Why some don’t care about their future?

Why is it that so many give so little thought to the future?

There are a number of reasons for this.

Here are some of them:

▪ The anxiety and struggle of everyday life stifles thoughts of the future.

▪ The “now generation” philosophy promotes the view, ‘live for the moment and the future will take care of itself.’

▪ Those pursuing the ‘whatever will be, will be’ way of life believe destiny alone shapes the future.

▪ The ‘what’s the use’ feeling results in despair and deters setting goals for the future.

But how about those who do plan for the future?

Their plans may lack objectivity and their future may, therefore, become disappointing.

How so?

Because there are some things that shape human thought that can make a person expectations for the future flawed.

One is inherited genetic traits; the other, the environment.

And the philosophy of the political, religious, economic and social community is constantly squeezing people into its mold.

The result?

Deflection of effort away from a realistic future.

A realistic approach to your future

‘How can I have a realistic and meaningful future?’ you wonder. 

The answer may lie in what Nobel Prize winner John Galsworthy wrote: "If you do not think about the future, you cannot have one.”

Give serious thought first to what the future could bring.

Next think about what you would like to be and do in that future. 

Then take the needed action to direct your steps toward that goal.

But remember humans lack complete control of future situations and must react to them as they develop.

For example, your effort may include preparing for your children’s education, assuming that this will guarantee them a more promising future. 

Yet there are university graduates who become unemployed.

Or you may be working extremely hard at present so as to be financially secure in the future.

But inflation and economic recession can strip away financial holdings.

Or it may be looking forward to retirement with a home and an income that will give material independence and the ability to live out the golden years in comfort.

Yet some disaster may rob you of this hope.

Or it may be you believing that the future will somehow become better tomorrow.

But that “tomorrow” never comes.

What can do when your life does not turn out like you had planned it?

Suppose you are planning for a family picnic but find out that the weather forecast calls for a severe thunderstorm.

Would you not change your plans?

There is nothing you can do to control the weather, but you do not have to get drenched. 

If alternative steps are taken, the family can have a pleasant time elsewhere despite the storm.

For some however, self-delusion may be more pleasant than facing reality, but it does not provide a living, feed loved ones, or enable one to cope with the many other requirements of life.

A person who imagines things are the way he would like them to be, instead of facing them the way they really are, is not reasoning on the facts, but is building on fancy.

His powers of discernment are clouded.

Those who ignore the facts and delude themselves with fancy are like the proverbial ostrich that hides his head in the sand when danger nears.

However, the realist person recognizes that such ostrich exists in fables only, not in fact! 

The ostrich of reality does not ignore the fact of danger. He does not hide his head in the sand.

To the contrary, he moves away from the source of potential harm so rapidly that few animals can keep up with him when he is in full flight.

Daydreamers are like that proverbial ostrich

They hide their heads in the sands of self-deception and fancy when situations arise that demand a realistic facing of the facts, and actions based on those facts.

Therefore, for your future to be more realistic, be willing to make the necessary adjustments to meet the various challenges you will meet in the future.

Lovely family.

Have we not all, at one time or another, made personal resolves to do something nice for a family member? 

We promise ourselves that we are going to express our love and appreciation for them.

We may plan to express our sentiments by means of a gift, a note, a verbal expression or some kind gesture. 

Such personal resolves are noble, for they reflect an unselfish frame of mind.

However, it is one thing to make a personal resolve to do something and quite another to carry it out.

This is because we may let other things cause us to keep putting it off.

Unless we promptly carry it out while the desire is burning brightly in our hearts, we may find that we will be continually postponing it. 

This usually leads to our forgetting about our good intention or giving up the whole idea.

Don't take them for granted

To avoid failing in this regard, we need to recognize that the complexities of modern-day living make our forgetting a good intention an easy course to follow.

Matters do come up unexpectedly, some of which demand our immediate attention.

However, by not letting small matters dictate our course of action, we will more likely fulfill our good intentions, much to the joy of our family and ourselves.

Notice that there is a need to pursue the doing of good, at all times making it our aim.

Such counsel is given because humans tend to let other things crowd out this most desirable quality.

Yes, we need to guard against the habit of postponing the doing of good to our family.

Further, procrastination or the putting off of matters for another time is nourished by the tendency to take things for granted.

How is this?

Well, let us say that a married couple has been planning for some time to have their aged parents over for dinner.

However, something is always coming up that causes them to keep postponing it.

Are they not taking for granted that they and their aged parents will be here next week or next month?
How true that is!

None of us knows what the next day will give birth to, let alone the next week.

Husbands and wives also need to guard against the complacent feeling of taking each other for granted.

Take advantage of the numerous opportunities to do thoughtful little things for your closest companion in life.

Do not get into the habit of delaying the doing of good that you plan for that one.

One husband was left to care for two children when his wife suddenly died.

He confessed that he took her for granted and now he wants so much to have the opportunity to tell her how much she meant to him and how good she was.

What a lesson we can draw from his experience!

While it is true that husbands and wives owe it to their mates to be appreciative, expressions of appreciation mean much more when they are not demanded but are won by appealing to the other person’s heart.

How can this be done?

Spend more time with them

It is not enough that one should be generous with his or her time in dealing with persons outside, the family deserves attention too.

A person who spends some time each day in up building conversation with his or her family will certainly be appreciated far more than the one who simply brings home money.

And while others may admire him or her for helping others in the community, it is the willingness to set aside time regularly to be with his or her family that will strength family bonds.

In view of the transient nature of life, we should do now what we resolve in our hearts and not put it off.

To avoid putting off what we plan, we also need to guard against hobbling ourselves with the idea that we must make an elaborate gesture to express our sentiments.

This, too, contributes toward postponing the fulfillment of our loving desires.

Yes, planning to make it extraordinary may defeat our purpose.


When little things come up that do not require much to accomplish, we will find ourselves tackling these and postponing the more complicated resolve.

Today there are many persons who are plagued with remorse and regret.

Among them are those who never appreciated what they had until they lost it.

Others kept putting off carrying out their noble intentions so long that suddenly death took away the object of their planned attention.

They are haunted by memories of what could have been but was not.

While it is too late to do anything to correct the matter now, such ones can learn from their experience.

Yes, they can make changes, resolving never to let it happen again.

Rather than torment themselves over the past unfulfilled resolves, they can positively take advantage of the opportunities they now have to do good to their family.

The lessons here apply to all of us.

We should do the good that we plan to do now while we have the opportunity.

One daughter wisely responded quickly to her noble desire, and she wrote to her parents, saying:

"Dear Mom and Dad. Thank you both so very much. I appreciate it more and more as I grow older.”

What joy that brought to her parents!

How loving and wise not to hold back from telling your dear parents the deep appreciation you have for what they have done for you! 

Why not let them know now how much you appreciate their love, devotion and sacrifices for you?

Not only for our own good but for our own self-respect we need to overcome the tendency to put off doing things, especially that which is beneficial and good.

Have you resolved to do something kind for your family?

Do not put it off, do it now!

Debt consolidation.

Guest post by Andrew

Free debt consolidation programs, can they really help you become debt free?

Have you piled up enormous credit card debt?

Do you want to get rid of debt burden?

If yes, then you will come across different ways with which you can bring back your personal finances on the right track.

Since you've already fallen into debt, you must be looking for a way out to overcome debt.

You may choose free debt consolidation programs to erase debt problems.

For this, you will have to pay a certain amount of fees to the company so that they may help you become debt free.

Free debt consolidation programs

Reduce credit card bills with their help.

Here are some tips on how free debt consolidation programs can help you reduce credit card bills.

(1) Trying to reduce the rate of interest – 

Do you know why most card holders do not want to pay down the credit card dues on time?

Possibly, the reason behind this is the credit card companies charge them high interest rate.

You can choose free debt consolidation programs where the consolidator negotiates with your creditors for lowering the interest rate on your dues.

The credit card bill payments will become much easier for you.

(2) Going for a single monthly payment facility 

Have you mounted up outstanding dues on your several credit cards?

If yes, then choose debt consolidation and make yourself completely debt free.

The reason why you’ll opt for this debt solution is you can go for a single monthly payment facility.

As such, you won’t have to make the debt payments separately and thus, not handle various creditors at a time.

(3) The consolidator negotiating with the creditors 

It is not so easy to negotiate with your creditors when you do not have the proper negotiation skills.

Thus, the best thing you can do is to enroll in a debt consolidation program where the consolidator will do the work on your behalf.

He will negotiate with your creditors and ask them to diminish the interest rate by as much as they can. You’ll be able to pay off debts soon.

(4) Leaving a negative impact on your credit score 

Have you missed out any of your credit card bill payments?

If yes, then be assured that your credit score has dropped down by several points and your score has got hurt.

Other than this, if you've delayed in making even a single payment, this will leave a negative impact too. Sign up with debt consolidation and try to improve credit score.

(5) Getting a suitable chance to become debt free  

Are you worried as to how you will come out of debt problems?

If yes, then you must be spending sleepless nights thinking how you will pay off your dues quickly.

It’s suggested that you go for debt consolidation and try to repay debts as early as possible.

Debt consolidation gives you a suitable chance to become debt free.

Thus, debt consolidation program is an effective way to deal with your debt problems so that you can get rid of them soon.

Author's Bio:

Andrew- is a financial writer who loves to contribute his articles to the communities, blogs and websites.

Expressing doubt.

“Tell me. Why didn’t you greet me on the street the other day? What have you got against me?”

“We met? No, I can’t remember that!”

“That’s impossible! We passed and you even looked into my eyes, but didn’t greet me! What have you got against me?”

Did you ever experience or witness a situation such as this true-life incident?

Perhaps you have seen an even more serious instance when wrong motives were imputed to someone

For one thing, it is possible to misunderstand the attitude and motives of others.

Today, an individual may be shy and retiring.

Perhaps he also has a stern facial expression.

Others might wrongly conclude that he is cold, proud and unloving, although that may not be the case at all.

Sometimes people incorrectly impute laziness to others.

But the one they consider lazy may be doing his utmost.

Because of some physical weakness or health problem, he may not be able to do more or to work faster.

So it is good to realize that, for many reasons, not all persons are equally productive or efficient.

At times, wrong motives have been imputed to those who have simply been trying to show loving consideration for others.

For instance, in a certain office several persons take turns answering the telephone even after regular working hours.

They need not sit right at the phone waiting for a call, but may do something else in a room nearby.

One day, a responsible individual not on duty was right at the telephone when a call came in.

Considerately, he answered it so that the person then on duty would not have to interrupt activity in a nearby room.

Unfortunately, however, the one on duty imputed a wrong motive instead of thanking the thoughtful individual for his loving assistance.

A minor matter?

Yes, but it illustrates the need to guard against misconceptions in assessing the attitudes and motives of others.

Giving other the benefit of doubt

Seeing the sad consequences of imputing wrong motives to others, we certainly want to refrain from doing this.

It is wise to give others the benefit of the doubt.

Adherence to this principle certainly means trusting others in cases of doubt, instead of being unduly suspicious of them.

Getting better acquainted with others may help us to avoid imputing wrong motives to them.

Sometimes this takes months, or even years.

But in many cases, the more information we have, the less we are in danger of imputing wrong motives to others.

When our motive are questioned

But what if we are the ones to whom wrong motives are being imputed?

How should we react?

In the course of time, the other person may get to know you better and may correct his view.

Upon appreciating that he was mistaken, he will love you all the more, especially if you did not react in anger.

An especially difficult situation exists when a person gets counsel from someone who misjudges his motives.

Whatever might be said in defense may be viewed as self-justification.

In reality, however, the counsel may not apply because not all factors have been taken into consideration.

Still, some well-meaning counselors may tend to question your motives if you try to point out the real situation.

Hence, if the point in question is of little importance, you may choose not to say anything further to correct the counselor’s view, provided that no harmful results are to be expected from remaining silent.

But it is not always required that you simply say nothing if your position or motives have been misunderstood.

Obviously, it would be morally wrong to allow a lie to stand unchallenged.

There are instances when it is appropriate to explain your position or attitude calmly, so that your conscience is at ease because you know that at least you made an effort to clarify matters instead of being guilty of weakly admitting to a false charge.

Thereby the counselor may benefit, too, especially as regards developing balance in the giving of counsel.

Do you recall the case mentioned at the outset?

One individual had imputed wrong motives to another who had failed to greet her.

Well, in later conversation it was found that the man had just been lost in thought and had not recognized the woman.

That was the only reason that he had not said hello.

It was good that this woman spoke with the man about her impression and did not hold a grudge against him while at the same time not disclosing her thoughts.

But an even better solution to this problem would have been to assume from the very beginning that the other person had merely overlooked her.

There is, indeed, a need for balance in evaluating the motives of others.

Therefore, you should beware of unjustly imputing wrong motives to others.

Body build.

What is the relationship between body build type of body build and one's health?

Studies indicate that each type of body build has its strong points, its tendencies, its dangers and its distresses.

Researchers point out that there is a greater frequency of some diseases in persons exhibiting a predominance of a particular body build.

Thus the knowledge of the general relationship between body build and health may provide the basis for some preventive measures and at the same time throw some light on why it has been said that one man’s meat is another’s poison.

The combination of weight and height of a person results in a general build of body called habitus.

This word is defined as:

 “the body build and constitution, especially, as related to predisposition to disease.” 

There are three general divisions.

The heavy ones, usually high in what is called endomorphy; the medium or muscular ones, usually high in mesomorphy; and the thin ones, usually high in ectomorphy.

The study of body build in relation to health is being given increasing consideration these days.

It will be interesting to examine what some researchers have found in this matter, both as to disease susceptibilities and health assets.

Digestive system dominant 

This is known as endomorphy, with this body build the abdomen is bulkier than the chest and the limbs are comparatively short.

Those high in this body component are said to have splendid digestion; they can enjoy a heavy meal that would make a thin person most uncomfortable.

With the endomorph build usually comes an unusual freedom from nervous disorders.

Relaxation comes easily.

Sleep also comes easily and is deep.

Dr. Sheldon reports that those high in this body type can get along with less sleep than those of ectomorphic (thin) build.

He states, however, that those of endomorphic build often get too much sleep.

Hence those of this body type need to guard against the tendency to sleep in overdoses, a tendency that can become habitual.

Studies indicate that this body type does not often fall into the snare of overdoing exercise, since there seems to be a tendency to dislike vigorous exercise.

This body build is said to “work off” less food by exercise than others.

Food‘ is said to be. a sheer delight for those of this body type, and almost any kind can be eaten

Without difficulty, including coarse foods and fibers.

Midget meals do not seem to lit the capacious digestive tract of these persons, and they seem to do well with a moderate breakfast and two fairly large meals a day.

There is a tendency, as Dr. Sheldon puts it, for these persons to eat “more than is conducive to [their] best mental. development.”

Moreover, if they are not carefully moderate in food, especially with fats, oils, creams, sugars and gravies, they may easily put on thirty or more pounds every five years until middle life.

Though persons high in other body types may regulate their intake and output of energy quite automatically, a person high in endomorphy often cannot rely on his automatic regulations and may need to follow a dietary regimen prescribed by a physician, if he wishes to avoid the consequences of his constitutional trait.

What about the goal of an ultra-slim figure for those of endomorphic build?

They should remember that a relatively heavy build is natural to their body type, and as Dr. H. J . Berglund writes:

Weight tables, as published by insurance companies and publicized on penny scales, are of little value. Even the recent breakdown into three different tabulations for slight, medium, and heavy skeletons, does not make them individual enough. A person with small bones is probably an endomorph who is more likely to be healthy with a heavy load than many with more expansive skeletons.” 

Taking special precaution to guard against overdieting, overeating and oversleeping is thought to be beneficial for those high in this body type.

Bones and muscle system dominant 

This is called mesomorphy.

Those high in this body type have heavy bones and well-developed muscles.

They may be heavy but not overweight.

As a group these persons are said to be endowed with an unusually rich health capital.

Among their health assets are tremendous physical drive and endurance, with a relatively low sleep requirement, all of which gives them not only more energy than others but more time.

Another benefit is said to be infrequent food requirements, so that they often can go a long time without the thought of food.

Still another benefit of this body build is said to be the relative immunity to common nervous disorders.

There is a natural love for exercise on the part of those high in mesomorth; and since this body build benefits most from exercise, there may be a tendency to overdo it, spending too much time on bodily training.

Hence persons of this body type need to watch that the craving for exercise does not get out of hand, consuming valuable time that should be devoted to more essential things.

If the food habits of youth persist through middle age for persons high in this body build, body fat may accumulate.

Hence it may be necessary for many persons of this type to go easy on oils, fats, creams, gravies and concentrated sugars.

Since high blood pressure is quite common among persons prominent in mesomorphy, they are usually advised to take special care to avoid dangerous emotions, such as jealousy, resentment, anger and rage.

Skin and nervous system dominant

Those high in ectomorphy often have long limbs and delicate bones, long neck, small stomach and a relatively short digestive tract.
Thus the large, heavy meal may overload the small stomach of these persons, causing great discomfort.

They are said to do better with many small meals through the day.

Some studies indicate that persons high in ectomorphic build are relatively free from appendicitis, gall-bladder disorders, nephritis and many infections, except those of the upper respiratory tract.

Persons of this body type are said to have a lower degree of heart and arterial diseases than those of the other two body types, and so they are often regarded by insurance companies as excellent mortality risks.

Weight gains often are only three or four pounds after adolescence, so that the weight curve is consistent with long life expectancy.

Tenseness is said to be common among those of this group, and there is usually a hypersensitivity to insect bites, sometimes a tendency to unexplained itching.

Because those high in ectomorphy present a relatively larger body surface to the impacts of environment, the result is greater energy expenditures, coupled with the fact that there is less opportunity for accumulation of reserves (fat, protein, water, etc.).

The main susceptibility of the group is that of fatigue, caused partly by the fact that the digestive tract is poorly upheld.

Though exercise to strengthen the abdominal muscles is recommended for this group, Dr. Sheldon points out:

“Unnecessary vigorous exercise, instead of building up energy in these people, seems to exhaust the already scanty reserve and to leave them inefficient victims of chronic fatigue.” 

Despite the tendency toward fatigue, Dr. Sheldon adds that these persons may be just as zealous in their activities as those who have greater energy potential, but those of ectomorphic build may not be able to carry through as well as those with the heavier build.

Because of limitations on their energy, coupled with a zeal that may be as intense as those of mesomorphic build, those of this body type may sometimes experience feelings of frustration and dissatisfaction.

More sleep is required for those high in this body component, and they must exercise caution in such matters as socializing and staying up late at night.

Sometimes persons of this body type succumb to a nervous breakdown before they realize that they cannot keep up with the late hours and pace of those with stronger builds.

Thus Dr. Logan Clendening writes in his book The Human Body:

What can be done to help guide a constitutionally thin or heavy person past his dangers? Considering the inherent difficulties of the task, a good deal. For the ones we have called the thin people . . . they should sooner or later be brought to a realization of the very important fact for them that they have not the same powers of endurance as other people with stronger structures. This sounds very logical as put down here, but it is astonishing how long it takes some of these people to come to this conviction, how much turmoil they go through, how many diagnoses are pronounced upon them. My colleagues in the medical profession have been very slow to grasp this idea of the whole man. Rest for certain periods in the day sufficient to renew the stores of energy which these bodies need is the first element in treatment or adjustment. . . . Other accessories to treatment ’ are exercise to strengthen the abdomen-lying on the back and raising the legs to a vertical position-the wearing of supporting corsets, and an increased diet to fatten up persons of this type. . . . The heavy ones . . . must learn to be abstemious at the table.” 

Further suggestions are given in the volume Constitution and Disease for those predisposed to nervous disorders.

It is conceivable that those predisposed to [disorders] of the nervous system may be benefited by vitamin B in doses larger than those required by normal individuals. . . . [With reference to persons of various builds he said:] Regulation of diet, habits, mode of life, advice concerning choice of profession, periodic examination with regard to the individual morbid predisposition, physical and mental hygiene, are the means at our disposal for making up for what nature has denied to certain individuals.” 

Moderation in all habits will do much to help a person of any body build combat adverse predispositions.

And yet, as we have seen, what may be moderate for one body type may well be excessive for another.

Each one must use good judgment in determining.

And this includes moderation in the use of knowledge concerning health matters, preventive measures, and so forth.

Window cleaner.

Jobs naturally are harder to come by when unemployment is high and competition for them is keen.

Even so, much of the increase in time between jobs often stems from the inability of unemployed individuals to make preparations to land a job.

Educators, government officials and businessmen all say that many people remain jobless simply because they do not know how to prepare themselves for the interview.

Other unemployed individuals are reluctant to move to areas where employment is available.

Personnel officers state that most people do a very poor job of selling themselves.

They either do not know where to look for work, or what to say when they do find an opening.

It is obvious that a great many unemployed persons need to know what they must do to prepare themselves for the task of job seeking.

What can be done 

Today’s unemployed can benefit themselves immensely by doing one or more of four basic things:

(1) attend a school that will teach them how to approach an employer, or equip them with a trade that is in demand;

(2) seek employment in a field other than their own trade or profession;

(3) move to an area where there is work

(4) create employment for themselves.

The first two suggestions are in reach of almost every unemployed individual in many places, and their end is rewarding.

Bear in mind that jobs are more exacting today than they were fifteen or even ten years ago-and they are more exacting than the greatest number of the unemployed force is equipped to perform.

Schooling will help, since many of the long-term unemployed are marginal groups who lack education, training or physical abilities.

Many of these people would be rejected because they could not qualify for jobs they apply.

The lack of education of the nation’s youth is highlighted by the number of people who never went beyond basic school.

A closer look at these people reveals that many of them do not have jobs.

Their rate of unemployment was four times that of other young men of comparable age.

The majority of them work in jobs requiring the least skill, providing the lowest earnings and involving the greatest vulnerability to unemployment.

There is no escaping the fact that these unemployed must be trained before they can be absorbed completely into the labor force.

Therefore schooling does really help.

Moving to a place where there are jobs might be difficult to do if one is married and has a family.

Nevertheless, it might be the wisest thing to do.

Moving is never easy, not even under normal circumstances, but it has been done and is being done by job seekers daily.

The fourth suggestion, of course, is possible if one has a trade and is a hustler; he can find odd jobs here and there to keep him going.

There is always carpenter, mechanical and office work to be done.

There is a chance of turning a hobby into a paying job.
It will not hurt to try.

“Help wanted” agencies 

Private and government “help wanted” agencies are in abundance.

Many of them deal with specialized help.

Go to the agency that can serve your needs.

The private employment agent is the in-between man with the right qualifications to supply the right worker for the job, the right job for the worker.

Business and industry use his service.

So why don’t you?

A part-time job might serve your needs while you spend the extra time looking for the work you really want.

In that case it should pay you to investigate the many opportunities for employment offered by firms that specialize in placing temporary office workers.

Check the “help wanted” columns in your local newspaper or online classifieds.

Leave no stone unturned.

Advertise your need to as many people as possible.

Do not let disappointment discourage you.

You can defeat your unemployment problem.

Question mark.

Do you really know?

The more a wise person learns, the more he or she realizes how much more there is to know.

One appreciates how limited their knowledge really is, and that in a lifetime of seventy or eighty years one can only scratch the surface of the things there are to learn.

They also realizes that many things people accept as fact today may be corrected with an increase of knowledge tomorrow.

This keeps one from being dogmatic and from manifesting that irritating “know-it-all” attitude.

Generally it is the person that has only a smattering of knowledge that develops this attitude.

It is particularly a characteristic of many youths today.

They learn a little, and then think they know it all.

Their newfound knowledge puffs them up, causing them to consider their parents and other older folks to be “old-fashioned.”

Unfortunately many persons carry this “know-it-all” attitude over into adult life.

Such persons will go to great ends to give the appearance of knowing.

Have you ever had the occasion to ask for directions, and, instead of the person simply saying he did not know, he directed you on a wild goose chase?

Certainly it is annoying when individuals give misleading information simply to give the appearance of being well informed.

But it can be more than annoying; it can at times cause great suffering and heartache.

Not long ago attractive eight-year-old died after being under the care of a chiropractor who claimed he could cure her cancerous eye with medicines and manipulation.

“I can cure your child without surgery,” he said.

He collected his consultation fees; but the girl suffered terribly and died about a month later.

Regardless of whether he was sincere or not, the chiropractor did not really know; he had no real evidence to support his claim.

So in an unprecedented ruling, he was convicted of second-degree murder and sentenced to imprisonment.

Certainly it is unloving and can even be criminal to propagate information you are unsure of.

A person should therefore think before speaking: “Do I really know this is true?

What evidence do I have that it is?

Could it be only hearsay?

How much better it would be to admit you do not know for sure than to make dogmatic assertions simply because you feel something to be true!

You may even have a basis for your contention, but that does not necessarily mean it is correct.

Due to inadequate methods of observation, faulty experiments or insufficient knowledge, humans sometimes reach different conclusions.

These are printed in reputable books and magazines, and conflicting ideas are thus presented.

So, can you truthfully say you really know for sure, even when you have a reputable source for your information?

A wise person will take into consideration that the conclusions of people are at times incorrect.

One will therefore not be dogmatic.

One will be reasonable, and will recognize that there may be more to the subject than just what he or she has heard or read.

For instance, one person may have learned from authoritative sources that the queen honeybee mates with only one drone bee on her mating flight.

Yet another person may have read the Scientific American, which says that she mates “successively with several drones (on the wing).”

There are endless similar examples of where observations and studies made by learned humans yield different conclusions.

Another thing to consider is that many persons in this world are interested in furthering their own ends, and so endeavor to keep up the appearance of knowing it all when they really do not.

In certain parts of the world, for instance, whole communities have been misinformed, and often exploited, by those who only pretend to know.

In some of such places the literate person is considered practically infallible.

Everything he says is believed without questions, because, as it is said, ‘He reads the book.’

This is true particularly in certain African countries; but, surprisingly, quite similar conditions exist in places where nearly everyone is literate.

In the Western world the pronouncements of men of science are likewise viewed as almost infallible.

When a scientist makes an announcement, observed Anthony Standen in his book Science Is a Sacred Cow:

"he may not be understood, but at least he is certain to be believed. No one ever doubts what is said by a scientist.”

Just as many Africans gullibly accept the word of the person who ‘reads the book,’ so the general public parrots the sayings of scientists as though they were gospel truth.

You can therefore appreciate that, when you hear or read something, it is necessary to weigh the evidence.

Always keep in mind that human authorities and people are subject to error, and that sometimes they are even dishonest.

Woman unable to start a conversation.

Everyone talks, so conversation is easy, right?


In fact the very thought of conversation, especially with a stranger, often causes embarrassment. 

An anxious stream of questions comes pouring in:

How do I break the ice? 

What should we talk about? 

What about my accent?

These and many other doubts assail the timid conversationalist.

What is the solution?

Suppose you are waiting for a bus.

It is evening and the sun is setting, casting its hues over the city. 

A stranger, a few feet away, is apparently lost in thought.

Just the two of you. 

What will it be—barrier or bridge?

Silence or conversation?

Some say the city is big and cold, but that sunset is just as beautiful here as it was in the little town where I grew up.

You have built the first arch of the bridge toward your neighbor.

In most cases he will respond, and the gap has been bridged. 

Of course, not everyone wants to talk.

But at least you extended the opportunity by using simple common ground—the beauty of a sunset. It has universal appeal.

But there is one thing to minimize in conversation, that is, YOURSELF.

Since the subject must appeal to your listener, the theme will seldom be YOU

To illustrate, there is the story of a conceited movie star who bored his host for an hour with all the trivia of his life since they last met, then concluded by saying: “Well, enough about me. Tell me, have you seen my latest movie?”

Avoid the egocentric approach.

So let the subject be, not you, and perhaps not even what you did, but what happened, what’s going to happen, the news, the weather, world events and how they affect you and your listener.

Of course, one thing is to have a subject of common interest, another is to present it in an attractive way.

Your listener must be helped to see matters as vividly as you do.

How can you do that? 

By talking about something you like with enthusiasm. 

If you find you have “struck gold” and your companion shares your enthusiasm then ask questions.

Draw him or her out.

The inter flow will benefit both of you.

“I have an accent”

Some feel they can never be good conversationalists because their speech does not follow accepted patterns of grammar or pronunciation. 

Foreign-born folk occasionally feel this way, saying:

You know I have an accent and maybe people don’t understand me too well.” 

In actual fact, many enjoy an unusual accent. 

For example, a Britisher who lived many years in Spain and Portugal commented:

Although I was conscious of my accent when speaking Spanish or Portuguese, it actually served to hold interest on many occasions. Sometimes a person might take a moment or two to tune in, but after that they were delighted that you had learned their language.”

In many countries a foreign accent is commonplace.

It doesn’t even raise an eyebrow. 

So don’t let your accent hinder you.

Instead, the fact that you come from a different country can give you an enormous reservoir of subjects and experiences.

In most countries different accents and dialects exist anyway.

They are all part of the fascinating variety found within the human family. 

Sometimes “big city” people enjoy listening to the “quaint” talk of rural folk, all the while unaware that the country folk are intrigued by the “strange” city talk! 

The really important point is that they are talking.

Is it hard to listen?

Listening is the other half of good conversation, and just as important as talking.

The problem is that some do not really listen. 

They just plan their next line of thought and wait to pounce in—often on a tangent with a different subject or mood.

That way conversation is converted into two disjointed monologues

Good listening shows good manners.

It considers with an open mind the viewpoints offered and ponders how these might influence present opinions. 

True sincerity then becomes evident.

Is the listener trying to hang on to a point of view at all cost?

Or does he recognize when a valid point has been made? 

Yes, sincerity and flexibility make for good conversation.

There has to be a reliable bond of confidence and trust, based on a meaningful exchange of thoughts and intimacies.

Sad to say, some seldom or never enjoy this intimate kind of talk.

They have a barbed tongue and veil insults with “wit.” 

People are uncomfortable around them because they never know when they will feel the tongue’s sharp edge. 

Yes, gracious conversation will never unnecessarily hurt another person’s feelings or undermine dignity.


So be a conversationalist.

Don’t be afraid to break down barriers and bridge gaps. 

Remember that conversation has been described as “the sweeter banquet of the mind,” “the feast of reason and the flow of soul.” 

So let your ‘soul flow’ by getting to know people and letting them know you.

And just one more point—don’t overwhelm your listener—know when to stop!

Construction worker.

Why avoid lack of interest?

How much can a person lacking interest in his job accomplish? 

Very little; yet it seems that many persons go about their work with a half-a-mind attitude, not much drive, enthusiasm or heart being shown.

Some regard work merely as a means, a boring means of providing income for pleasure, which to them is the real business of living.

No wonder many persons go about their daily work without a professional attitude towards what they are doing. They do the minimum amount of work required to collect their pay check.

Much energy that could be used on their work is often squandered complaining about the place and shortcomings of their job.

With only half-hearted interest in their work, they exert themselves very little to improve on themselves on their job.

For example, how do sales persons show lack of interest for their work?

Besides showing reluctance to answer reasonable questions that arise in a customer’s mind, they fail to take customer’s needs into consideration.

They may present products on a “here-it-is” and “take-or-leave-it” basis.

How will this affect the customers?

They will be more inclined to go elsewhere.

This is because people tend to go where someone is interested in them and their needs.

There are, of course jobs that have more appeal than others.

But just because the interest appeal of a job does not measure up to one’s expectation, does not mean that the work cannot be performed with full heart and determination.

There is no job in the world so dull that it would not present fascinating angles to the mind.

Every job may be looked upon as responsive to our ideal, inviting us to infuse new goodness into it.

Why be considerate?

On the other hand, interest for our work does mean we should not be considerate to others.

For example, an engineer after getting into a train locomotive to make some adjustments to a window noted that was dirty.

It was not his duty to clean windows, so he waited until the worker of the proper job classification arrived to do the job before he could do his.

The train was delayed.

Later, a spokesman for the railways institution when explaining the delay acknowledged that the engineer was within his rights to do that, but he said that he lacked consideration for others, even when it was apparent that thousands of passengers would be inconvenienced.

Hence, it is important to appreciate that work is not only about intelligence or efficiency, but also about sincerity of the heart and responding to what needs to be done.

One can achieve a happy state by putting oneself into whatever one is doing be it small or big.

The skills one has should not only affect his or her job positively, but also enhance the happiness of those who benefit from it.


Each one can take an interest, and should, in the work he finds it necessary to do to earn a livelihood for himself and those dependent upon him.

View it as presenting a challenge to you to keep doing ever better work or to do it ever more efficiently, and that whether you are a professional man or a laborer, an office worker or a housekeeper.

Experience the joy and satisfaction that come from doing a good job.