How pride can ruin your personality, reputation and relationships?

A very proud woman pointing finger.
Have you ever dealt with a person who deliberately tried to make you feel small?"

Perhaps a manager, a boss, or even a family member who looked down his nose at you and treated you with utter disdain?

How did you feel about that person?

Were you attracted to his personality?

Certainly not! Why?

Pride and relationships


Pride usually creates barriers and stifles communication.

Pride makes a person downgrade everybody else, so that he or she always appears to be superior.

The person with such an attitude seldom says a good word about others.

There is always some negative qualifying phrase—"yes, that may be true, but he has this problem or that defect.”

In Thoughts of Gold in Words of Silver, pride is described as

 “an ever-defeating vice. It eats up a person, leaving very little to admire. In contrast, the world loves the humble—not the humble that are proud of it, but the really humble.” ” 

Is it any wonder that no one feels at ease around a proud person?

In fact, the price of pride is often a dearth of true friends.

The proud person is capable of hubris, of being insolent, of causing humiliation to others. 

He enjoys hurting someone in a cold, impersonal way and then gloats over the other person’s discomfort and ignominy. 

But undermining or destroying someone’s self-respect is a two-edged sword. 

It results in losing a friend and, more than likely, making an enemy.

Pride can have many faces—pride that springs from nationalism, from racism, from class and caste distinctions, from education, wealth, prestige, and power. 

In one way or another, pride can easily creep up on you and corrode your personality.

Many a person appears to be humble when dealing with superiors or even peers. 

But what happens when the apparently humble person gets into a position of authority? 


This may happen to some when they put on a uniform or carry a badge that implies power. 

Even government workers can become proud in their dealings with the public, thinking that the public is there to serve them, not vice versa. 

Pride can make you harsh, unfeeling; humility can make you kind.

The Spanish proverb is true, “Tell me who you walk with and I will tell you who you are.” 

If you prefer to associate with people who are slovenly, lazy, uncouth, and foulmouthed, then you will become like them. 

Their attitudes will rub off on you, and like them, you will lack self-respect.

Some people have difficulty saying, “I’m sorry. I made a mistake. You were right.” 

Why? 

Too much pride! 

Yet, how often a genuine apology could easily put a stop to a verbal disagreement.


Or, in your pride, do you hold a grudge, perhaps for days and months, refusing to speak to the supposed offender? 

Do you even carry on a vendetta in an effort to get even? 

People have been murdered in some vendettas.

In others, character assassination has been the method. 

In contrast, a humble person is loving and forgiving. 


Or do you always have to find a defect to take the shine off their reputation? 

Yes, are you capable of genuinely praising other people

If you have difficulty in this respect, perhaps personal insecurity and pride are your problems.

Self-respect means having respect for yourself. 

It means that you do care about what other people think of you. 

If care about your appearance, relationships and your reputation, avoid pride at all cost!

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