Understanding a child through their eyes

A mother trying to understand a child through her eyes.
There are many qualities needed to raise healthy and happy children-love, affection, sympathy, patience and a lot of wisdom. But the ability to put ourselves in their shoes will help us to understand and enjoy them as they are, not insisting that they be adults before they grow up."

Of course, children need correction and direction.

But even that is not hard for them to take when it comes from someone who seems to understand, not only that children need correction, but also that they have many things to learn and it takes time to do so.

To illustrate this, let as investigate some of aspects of life through children’s eyes.

About cleanness


A child’s world is not made up of clean hands and neat clothes. Rather it is composed of what interest them for the moment.

Of course, their interests quickly change from one thing to another, but while they are interested in one subject nothing else matters.

For example, a little girl may be very pretty in her spotless white dress, but when she spies a tiny kitten, she gives no thought to its being dirty.

All she sees is a helpless little animal that seems to need her love and care. She takes it into her arms and cuddles it, unmindful of what she is doing to her dress.

That wee living creature caught her attention and to her it was the most important thing.

Or when a boy finds that his bicycle won’t work because a screw is loose or some parts needs oiling, he gets down on the ground not minding that his best pants may be getting more of the dirty than the object that holds his interest.

Patiently we try to teach the children to give some thought to their clothes too, but when we understand their fascination with life, it will makes us more patient in helping them to learn the other lessons they must know.

Eager to learn


The curiosity of children seems boundless. They appear to use their sense to the full because they are hungry for knowledge, and there are so many things that are new to them.

There is hardly anything that they are not curious about. They have an endless stream of questions.

For example, why do we have a right and a left foot? Why does our tongue moves around when we talk? Why do some foods taste bitter and others sweet?

Yet this very curiosity is part and parcel of their growing and learning. This questioning and searching, if encouraged will be an important factor in their own enjoyment of life.

Of course, sometimes it is easier for us to say, “Stop asking so many questions,” than to think and arrive at answers that will satisfy them as well as ourselves.

But if we pause and answer the questions, it will make the children that much aware of things around them and it will help us grow in appreciation of the little things we tend to overlook in the hustle of daily living.

From their childlike ways there are things we adults can learn. Their eagerness to be taught, their humility and willingness to be taught, these are things worthy of imitation by older persons.

Children learn much from adults, but it is obvious that we can also take lessons from young children.

Entertainment


Often we miss so much by showering them with expensive presents and toys, when simple things usually give them the most delight.

But no amount of material can compare with spending time with them. Try it and you will notice how little it takes to entertain them.

For example, take a walk through a park, hand in hand with a child. They will laugh when a leaf blows away, run after a bird, be fascinated with a stone.

With curiosity they will examine bugs, stop to listen to the symphony of birds or observe the busy activity of an army of ants and be attracted to various shapes, color of flower and leaves.

Their joy will be your joy as you see life through their eyes.

What a happy times children in general have, and how happier we adults would be if at times we would but pause and capture the excitement and delight that children have in living!

They are absorbed in living each moment to the full and are usually untouched by the problem that tends to make us forget the joy of living.

They bask in the sunlight of their special world, with their games, imaginations and secrets, and if we let them they will gladly share their world with us.

Needs of reassurance


When trying to see things from children's standpoint, you realize that to a small child everything seems to be huge and towering above them.

They usually sees grown-ups from a different point of view than do adults. For instance, children normally see legs and knees before they see faces.

When they observe people hurrying around, often not paying attention to them until they do something wrong, they feel insecure.

How grateful they are when someone notices them and has an encouraging word for them.

How much they need the security that comes from knowing that Dad and Mom are always willing to help!

It is good to encourage children’s efforts to express themselves.

Their point of view may reveal problems, and a problem clearly understood is much easier to solve. But how we respond to their utterances is as important as getting them to express themselves.

In other words, if a child is disrespectful or has done something shocking, needing correction, we should try hard not to let our attitude and tone of voice match our annoyance or frustration.

Of course, this is much easier said than done. But remember, harsh or belittling replies, such as, “Stupid” or, “Can’t you do anything right?” never improve an already difficult situation.

Many parents have found that extending empathy by giving commendation, especially before counseling, can yield positive results.

Here again is an opportunity to look through a child’s eyes. Most children are very much aware when such commendation is given with an ulterior motive or when it is not from the heart.

Therefore, when giving commendation to our children, we should make sure that the praise is genuine and deserved.

Conclusion


Do you have children? They are lots of work, as you know. But take time to enjoy them while they are young.

Soon they will become adults and those years of their childhood will be gone.

So make their childhood years, years in which you recapture the joys of youth and in which you lay a foundation on which your children can build with success.

In truth it can be said that no matter what good advice or wise counsel we read, there is no shortcut to bringing up a son or a daughter.

It requires patience, love, understanding, and consideration. But a great help toward success is to learn to see and understand the behavior of your young one “through a child’s eyes".

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