How to promote kindness in your family?

A happy family full of kindness.

Kindness is refreshing. We appreciate it especially because so many people we meet are without kindness."

We read of parent’s beating children and violence of all kinds, but rarely do we read any headlines telling of an outstanding act of kindness.

So ask yourself, do you make an effort to show kindness? Or if someone is unkind to you, are you unkind to the next person you meet? Or do you take your feelings out on your family?

Do not be surprised, then, to see your children treat the household pet with meanness.

Why not act instead as a solid reef to stop the spreading waves of unkindness? The place to start is at home, and the one to start with is oneself.

Promoting kindness in the family

In a family where kindness is shown, each one, father, mother and children, must have a part.

Husbands should not take their wives for granted, but look for opportunities to give encouragement.

Is the spirit in your home such that, when someone says something nice, the other person says, ‘All right, now what do you want?’

How much better it is when the wife shows appreciation for the hard work of her husband and the husband lets his wife know how much he enjoys the meal. Do you do that?

It is important not to have two standards, speaking with consideration and politeness outside the home, but unkindly, bluntly and without feeling to those who are close to you.

It is often true that actions speak louder than words, so kindness can be shown not only in speech but also by our actions in the home.

It may be something little, something unexpected, but bringing happiness or expressing sympathy. It is not necessary but certainly kind if a husband brings flowers for his wife.

Or perhaps the wife is not feeling well. It does not take long to help with the dishes or with the children, and she may appreciate it more than a gift. Try letting kindness be your gift.

The wife has an important part in establishing a spirit of kindness in the family. ” Instead of being an exception, this should be a law or rule of action for the wife. It means thinking before speaking.

With this rule for the home, we will find that kindness solves problems.

Kindness to children

Kindness to children is important for a happy family. Cultivate this quality in them as well, and remember that they do as they see you do.

So commend them when they do well in school.

Parents should not be irritating their children, and it is a good thing for parents to organize their family in kindness, so that the children know what is expected of them and so they will be built up by a good schedule.

Children, of course, need encouragement and even discipline to follow out a schedule to be prepared for their studies and to fulfill home chores that may be assigned.

But kindness is not to be confused with sentimentality or letting things slide. Mistaken kindness can result in juvenile delinquency.

It is no kindness to children when parents do not care about the company they keep, about their school attendance, but just let the children drift and do things their own way.

The children may well think the parents do not care if this happens.

While children, because of immaturity, may not appreciate the close supervision, reproof given to a wise person will cause him to love you for it, and, in time, the same will be true of the child.

Some parents pamper their children by giving them everything they can. But a survey at certain school revealed that not a single straight ‘A’ student owned a car, while 83 percent of those who failed did.

Surely the parents providing the cars thought it was a kindness to the child, but it was not so from an educational standpoint.

However, at the breakfast table if your child accidentally knocks over the milk, do you think he likes to be told crossly that he or she is clumsy? Try kindness.

Treat others as you like to be treated, as this is the real essence of kindness.


If you like to have kindness shown to you, try making a practice of showing kindness to others. The little thought and effort it takes bring much happiness.

A gentle, friendly and merciful attitude is associated with kindness, and it is certainly much better to show kindness in the first place than to try to patch up unhappiness.

So if you find in your family a tendency toward friction or lack of love, even harsh, rude talk, try cultivating the spirit of kindness.

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Why not to limit cooperation to your terms?

Office workers team takes a photo.

It is natural for humans to love liberty. But it is not wise to act too independently.

There must be a ‘give and take,’ for we need one another. The very circumstances of life call for cooperation on the part of all of us.

Illustrating the need for cooperation is the item that appeared in the New York Times captioned, “Swiss Deport U.S. Citizen in Dispute over His Home.”

He was deported because of getting involved in many disputes with the local authorities over petty things, such as insisting on building his home nine inches higher than the law permitted.

The government held that he was a troublemaker, who either was unable or unwilling to adapt himself to local ways.

How foolish to make issues over trifles, making trouble for oneself and others! What caused him to act this way? Too much of an independent attitude.

Obviously he lacked empathy; he was unable to put himself in the shoes of his Swiss hosts.

He wanted everything his own way, and so was deported because he could not fit in, refusing to cooperate with the local authorities.

It is an extreme case, which highlights a common human failing. We cannot escape it.

Cooperation is the course of wisdom.

In fact, the animals might be said to teach us the wisdom of this course—although it is no credit to them, as they act from instinct and not from choice.

Thus a noted biologist, William A. Wheeler, in his book Philosophical Biology points out that there is something fundamentally social in all living things, and that;

this must be a characteristic of all life, since every organism is at least temporarily associated with other organisms.”

He writes that this is true even “of such supposedly unsocial creatures as lions, eagles, sharks, tiger beetles and spiders. There are, in fact, no truly solitary organisms.”

According to one of America’s leading anthropologists, Ashley-Montague, among lower animals cooperation is far more pronounced and important than competition for survival.

While lower animals cooperate instinctively, it is human’s glory that they can cooperate volitionally, out of choice.

Cooperation has been defined as ‘the act of working with another or others to a common end.’

Implicit in cooperation, then, is a goal worth seeking to attain, and it requires that we be willing to yield or “give” for the sake of realizing that goal.

In other words, it means the giving up of little things for the sake of bigger things.

For example, a man and a woman wed for the purpose of happy family life.

For either to insist on having his or her own way, or limiting cooperation to one’s own terms, would be to frustrate the purpose and shut out family happiness.

Yet how often we find married persons doing that very thing, robbing themselves and their mates of happiness by refusing to cooperate on terms other than their own!

For example, a wife might prevail upon her husband to go visiting her relatives, but if he is not particularly fond of them he may do little, if anything, to make the visit a truly enjoyable one.

Then, again, a husband might want to bring some friends home for supper, or he might want a certain food.

But if his wife does not particularly like those friends or that food, she may go about preparing the meal in an indifferent, routine way, refusing to give wholehearted cooperation, to underscore how she feels about it.

How far short each is coming of doing to the other as he would have the other do to him! Yes, and also how foolish!

For even as we cannot make others happy without making ourselves happy, so we cannot make others miserable by refusing to cooperate without making ourselves miserable

Or it may be at your place of employment that the question of cooperation comes up.

The way a certain thing is being done may not make sense to you, but that is no reason for not doing your part, and that to the best of your ability.

If the course pursued is not a wise one, most likely time will tell, but in the meantime give it an opportunity to succeed by doing all you can to make it succeed.

Especially is this matter of cooperation important where voluntary work is concerned.

Where there is a mutual effort for the common good and each one contributes freely of his or her services or goods, there is often the tendency to take oneself too seriously and to feel free to limit one’s cooperation when things are not being done as one would like to see them done, or when one is not given what one feels to be a sufficiently prominent role.

Here might be said to be a test of loyalty to the cause, group or organization.

Yes, to limit your cooperation to your own terms can cause the loss of many friends.

In fact, where no principle of justice would be violated, there always is a blessing in yielding one’s preferences for the sake of others or the common good.

So do not limit your cooperation to your own terms. Be willing to sacrifice self-will for the sake of mutual well-being and happiness.

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Will computers be able to solve all human problems?

A saleswoman showing how a computer solves a certain problem.

Perhaps, until now, you have thought of computers as “electronic brains” that can answer any question or solve any problem.

While this is the view often popularized on TV science fiction series and movies, is it an accurate one?

There are some persons who have been led to believe that through human’s efforts a super computer is just around the corner, one that will revolutionize human affairs.

Such a super computer, some believe, will solve all human’s problems in government, science, food supply and medicine. 

Is such a trust realistic? 

What are the abilities and limitations of a computer?

Most persons are familiar with some type of machine that is used to solve mathematical problems. An example is the electric adding machine.

No one who has used this device would imagine it to be a substitute for the human brain. 

It is quite obvious that, although this machine can add faster and with greater accuracy than the average person, it is still simply a mechanical device. 

Perhaps this fact is easier to perceive with such a device because it is mechanical in nature; that is, the electric adding machine simply has a motor to drive a mechanical apparatus. 

The operation of such a machine can be seen through mechanical processes.

The concepts involved in the operation of a computer are very similar to those of a simple mechanical math solver  machine. 

However, since the computer is not mechanical, it may seem more magical than its more mundane, mechanical cousin, because its operation by means of electronic impulses is invisible to the human eye. 

The computer achieves through electronic circuitry what the adding machine accomplishes through the use of mechanical processes.

The computer, like an adding machine, can do nothing if left to itself. 

As the book How to Live with Your Computer, by Paul T. Smith, puts it:

Often heard is the statement, ‘The computer does this,’ or, ‘The computer made that mistake.’ Data processing equipment . . . is inanimate. It will perform only as instructed; it can take no responsibility for its actions, good or bad. Like any other facility, the computer is no more efficient than the person responsible for it."

The computer’s only truly automatic action is its repetition of operating instructions; humans must specify the act of logic the computer is to perform.   

Humans’s knowledge therefore becomes the fountainhead of any data processing system.

The advantage of computers is that the instructions need to be prepared only once. 

These instructions (the “program”) are prepared in such a way that they may be stored in much the same manner that music is stored to be played back as often as desired on a music player. 

The instructions can then be read back into the computer when it is desired for them to perform the function for which they were designed. 

This process of preparing instructions for the computer to perform some task is called “programming.”

Now, if the designers of a computer program do not make the instructions comprehensive enough to cope with unusual occurrences and all possible eventualities, then what? 

Why, the computer will be unable to handle the situation, or it will make false assumptions and produce wrong results.

Of a computer’s several parts, the main part is the so-called memory. 

It is in this “memory” that the program, or instructions, are stored while performing the task to be accomplished. 

The computer, depending upon its size, has thousands or millions of available positions for holding the instructions and the numbers to be used. 

Each position has an address associated with it in much the same way that each house on a street has an address, enabling you to find a specific house. 

The instructions in the program can then “tell” the circuits in the computer where to find the number to be added, where to store the answer, where to find the next instructions, and so forth.

From the amount of detailed instructions required, you can see that the programmer preparing the instructions provides the method for solving a problem. 

The programmer is the one who provides the information to be used in the computations. 

The computer does not decide how to solve the problem any more than the adding machine does. 

The computer only follows the path of instructions provided by the programmer. 

Therefore, a computer cannot solve a problem without human intellect to provide the formula. 

It can only speed up the working of the formula that is supplied by a human.

It is apparent, then, that human's cannot rely only on computers to solve all the great problems facing the human race. 

World leaders are unable to supply a formula for world peace for humans to work out, let alone prepare such instructions for a computer. 

Biologists and medical researchers do not have the means to devise a formula for perfect health and everlasting life. 

Social workers, in their own wisdom, have no solutions for racial hatred, greed and selfishness.

Thus, while computers can be used to provide faster solutions to problems that can be defined by humans, they cannot provide answers to problems for which humans have no formulas.

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How to spend your time well?

Hand watch showing time.

Do you have time to do the things that matter most to you? Many persons do not, this despite the increasing use of time saving devices.

With all the time saving devices many still find it hard to find time for the more important things in life.

To buy out time for pursuits that will truly enrich our lives we need an awareness of how we spend our time. 

According to a recent survey, the average man spends twenty years working, twenty years sleeping, five years shaving and dressing, five years eating, one year telephoning, three years just waiting and sixteen years playing or relaxing.

These waiting and relaxing categories may offer, for many persons, a wealth of time that can be bought out. After all, sixteen years of playing or relaxing is a lot of time. 

Could some of this time be more profitably used? 

Each person must answer such a question for themselves, taking into consideration their own needs for relaxation.

Spending your leisure time well

One should be willing to examine the time he or she allots to relaxation. In this regard it is obvious that many persons are immoderate in their habits. 

For example, one marketing research organization, reports that the an average family spends an average of thirty-eight hours a week in front of the TV screen. 

That is about 2,000 hours a year, the equivalent of 250 eight-hour days—lost forever for any other purposes.

So, not only is it wise to examine one’s relaxation habits but it is profitable to be conscious of how one spends much of his or her other leisure time. 

Some persons spend considerable time reading. To get the most out of this time one should ask oneself: 

What is my purpose in reading this or that? What will I learn? How will I benefit?" 

When one reads with a purpose, he or she saves time and is more likely to use it wisely.

Much time can be wasted on reading material such as newspapers. 

The 'Sunday newspaper' is a notorious time waster because many persons try to read too much of it. 

Usually there are only a few items that are of real concern to the reader. View the newspaper for what it is—a page of history. 

Keep abreast of news that is significant history; but much that fills a newspaper is hardly that.

Spending your waiting time well

For those persons who already have their relaxation requirements at a moderate or minimum level, there is another category they may examine: waiting time. 

It is said to average three years. It may be even longer. 

One Swiss who made a careful record of his use of time found that in his eighty years he had wasted more than five years waiting for tardy people.

There is often considerable time at one’s disposal in this waiting category

There is waiting for haircuts, waiting for doctor or dental appointments, waiting for a spouse, waiting for trains, planes and buses and waiting while on trains, planes and buses. 

These waiting periods may furnish opportunities to study what you want to or need to. 

Think of the many opportunities to read publications that will aid one to improve ones quality life!

Another way to buy out time is to alter your schedule. 

Some persons may be able to get along on less sleep; they may choose to get up a half hour or an hour earlier than usual. This gives them valuable time for reading.

Organize your time well

To buy out time there is something else that can be done: make time by organizing your time. 

A time-planned day or week should not be so rigid, however, that it leaves one frustrated because of inability to keep it. 

The schedule should be reasonable. It should take into consideration the vital things of life.

In his book You and Your Work Ways, Morgan D. Parmenter recommends listing three different types of activity when planning a time-scheduled day or week: 

(1) The things one must do, (2) the things one would like to do and (3) the things one will do only if time permits."

Beginning a week or day with a fair idea of what you intend to accomplish results in so much more being done than would be done had there been no schedule. 

All your time should be organized or much of it will be wasted—your study time as well as your working and leisure time. 

A study program without the discipline of a definite schedule usually results in nothing much being accomplished. 

The only way to study a subject is to work at it on a regular schedule. Take one thing at a time. 

Simply schedule it for a definite period each day, or every other day, and keep to your schedule. You’ll be surprised at what you can accomplish in this way.

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How to stop being depressed about your life?

A woman who is depressed with her life.

Are you one who thinks that life lacks meaning, and that you would be better off dead than alive?

Maybe it is not the world but you who are at fault. It is amazing what a wonderful difference an improved outlook can make in that which one beholds!

Don’t ignore your blessings

For example, one gloomy day a housewife glanced out of her kitchen window. The sky appeared gray, the view dull and uninspiring.

She turned to her work hoping that the world outside would soon brighten up. Just then a window cleaner came along.

Soon she was put to work on her kitchen windows washing off the accumulation of dust and smoke.

When the housewife turned to look out of her now-washed windows, to her amazement things appeared less dismal.

There were the bright colors of the flowers, the soft green grass, the children playing, the trees and the hills in the distance—all these brought her a keener appreciation of the beauty that surrounded her.

She realized that nothing about the outside world had changed. She merely had her windows cleaned and was better able to discern the beauty that had been present all the time.

Perhaps we all need mental window washing from time to time, in order that we may behold less of the gloominess of things about us and more of the blessings that we enjoy.

“I never go anywhere,” complained a depressed housewife. “I never see anything. I’m stuck away in this apartment and this is where I stay put.”

Her complaint sounds legitimate enough, but is it worth allowing one’s attitude to sour? Having a place to live is a rare blessing in itself.

Many people in the world would give much for an apartment to live in. The privilege to see things is also a rare blessing.

Put yourself in Ernest position. For forty-eight years he saw nothing but dark, vague shadows in the daytime and nothing but blackness at night. He was blind.

Yet he lived in hope and found life worth living. One day Ernest underwent an operation. His sight was restored.

To him words now fail to describe what a blessing sight is!

Perhaps being tucked away in an apartment may not be the best life, but maybe with a little mental window washing you can learn to appreciate the blessings inside the home, such as your children, your furniture or a good book.

There are many things inside that can add beauty to life. Guard against a sour disposition by being aware of your blessings.

Dealing with your depressing situations positively

Are you handicapped in any way or bedridden? Your misfortune can become a terrible strain if you allow it to becloud your mental windows and not permit other blessings to shine through.

Simply because you are not completely sound of body, must life come to a halt? Nonsense!

There are thousands of people like you who are leading active, happy lives.

The thing to do is to keep the windows of your mind clear so that you can see out to enjoy the other beauties that life holds forth for you.

Use whatever sound members you have in a way that will help others, and soon you will see that it is this fact that makes life worth living.

The things we do just to satisfy our own personal desires seem to lose their flavor quickly, but there is a deeper and more lasting satisfaction in meeting the needs of others.

You may have a husband that is an alcoholic or a wife that throws away your hard-earned money in bingo games. Neither of these conditions makes for happy living.

But what sense is there in permitting such things to fog the windows of your mind with bitter hate and disgust for life?

A drunken husband may not be a pleasure to have around the house, but other things may be.

Center your mind on your children, on beautifying and redecorating the interior of your home, on becoming a skilled cook or seamstress, and you will be surprised how much brighter life becomes even with life’s problems.

Are you out of work, or do you have two jobs and no time for yourself? Both situations leave men miserable.

Being without work certainly is not pleasant, but all is not lost. Look for the bright side; there usually is one.

Your being out of work may give you more time to be with the family, to catch up on some much-needed study and repair work at home.

Men who have been unemployed for a long time often allow themselves to become bitter, so bitter in fact that when they do apply for jobs their very cranky dispositions prevent them from qualifying.

The secret, then, is to cultivate an appreciation for the things you do have and delight in them instead of always reaching out for something new and different.

Be less wanting, less ambitious, less complaining and the windows of your mind will be open to become more appreciative of the blessings around you.

It is generally those who look for beauty that find it, those who listen for truth that hear it and enjoy its freedom-giving power, those who love that are loved in turn, those who cherish life who enjoy it.

Keep the windows of your mind clean to appreciate this fact.

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Why have a realistic approach to your future?

A woman thinking about her future.

Young or old, rich or poor, sick or healthy, you have a future, for the word “future” means “time that is to come.”

And everyone reaches the future at the same rate of 60 minutes an hour. What that future will bring for you, however, depends on how you view it and plan for it.

Your future consists of more than just the time that remains of your present life.

It also includes how you use that time, the plans you have made, the goals you have set.

Why some don’t care about their future?

Why is it that so many give so little thought to the future? There are a number of reasons for this. Here are some of them:

▪ The anxiety and struggle of everyday life stifles thoughts of the future.

▪ The “now generation” philosophy promotes the view, ‘live for the moment and the future will take care of itself.’

▪ Those pursuing the ‘whatever will be, will be’ way of life believe destiny alone shapes the future.

▪ The ‘what’s the use’ feeling results in despair and deters setting goals for the future.

But how about those who do plan for the future? Their plans may lack objectivity and their future may, therefore, become disappointing. How so?

Because there are some things that shape human thought that can make a person expectations for the future flawed.

One is inherited genetic traits; the other, the environment. And the philosophy of the political, religious, economic and social community is constantly squeezing people into its mold.

The result? Deflection of effort away from a realistic future.

A realistic approach to your future

‘How can I have a realistic and meaningful future?’ you wonder. 

The answer may lie in what Nobel Prize winner John Galsworthy wrote: "If you do not think about the future, you cannot have one.”

Give serious thought first to what the future could bring. Next think about what you would like to be and do in that future. 

Then take the needed action to direct your steps toward that goal.

But remember humans lack complete control of future situations and must react to them as they develop.

For example, your effort may include preparing for your children’s education, assuming that this will guarantee them a more promising future. 

Yet there are university graduates who become unemployed.

Or you may be working extremely hard at present so as to be financially secure in the future. But inflation and economic recession can strip away financial holdings.

Or it may be looking forward to retirement with a home and an income that will give material independence and the ability to live out the golden years in comfort.

Yet some disaster may rob you of this hope.

Or it may be you believing that the future will somehow become better tomorrow. But that “tomorrow” never comes.

What can do when your life does not turn out like you had planned it?

Suppose you are planning for a family picnic but find out that the weather forecast calls for a severe thunderstorm. Would you not change your plans?

There is nothing you can do to control the weather, but you do not have to get drenched. 

If alternative steps are taken, the family can have a pleasant time elsewhere despite the storm.

For some however, self-delusion may be more pleasant than facing reality, but it does not provide a living, feed loved ones, or enable one to cope with the many other requirements of life.

A person who imagines things are the way he would like them to be, instead of facing them the way they really are, is not reasoning on the facts, but is building on fancy. His powers of discernment are clouded.

Those who ignore the facts and delude themselves with fancy are like the proverbial ostrich that hides his head in the sand when danger nears.

However, the realist person recognizes that such ostrich exists in fables only, not in fact! 

The ostrich of reality does not ignore the fact of danger. He does not hide his head in the sand.

To the contrary, he moves away from the source of potential harm so rapidly that few animals can keep up with him when he is in full flight.

Daydreamers are like that proverbial ostrich

They hide their heads in the sands of self-deception and fancy when situations arise that demand a realistic facing of the facts, and actions based on those facts.

Therefore, for your future to be more realistic, be willing to make the necessary adjustments to meet the various challenges you will meet in the future.

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Why increase in sexual explicit cursing language?

A person shouting vulgar words.

In the factory where Inez was employed, she was the undisputed queen of the ‘cussing clique.’ One day Alice accidentally bumped into Inez.

In the ensuing argument Alice casually swore at Inez. Onlookers were shocked at this brashness. Inez retaliated with a torrent of  sexual obscene insults. 

Louder and louder rang out the offending oaths, echoing and reechoing off the walls, attracting fellow employees who came running to cheer on their favorite. 

At first it seemed to be a deadlock as curse after curse rent the air.

Finally the greater experience of Inez, in mingling and compounding sexual obscenities, began to prevail.

From what seemed to be a limitless vocabulary of abusive words, she beat down Alice, who, silenced and red-faced, slowly walked away. 

Jubilant shouts were heard as workers drifted back to their machines. Inez, taking it all as a matter of course, calmly resumed her work.

Such incidents are not uncommon today. Language once identified with hopeless derelicts has become routine. 

Swearing on the sexual parts of women and men is now “acceptable.” Young ones commonly use language that used to get their mouths washed out with soap. 

And while, in the past, curse words were represented in print by asterisks or dashes, they are now often spelled out for the reader.

The change in view toward obscenity is also reflected in movies. These are now commonly filled with raunchy conversations and obscene words.

Filmmakers often insert such language to get an “adult” rating.

Vulgar language in daily life

Today vulgar words describing sexual activity punctuate almost every sentence of many people, being applied to almost every conceivable thing.

And these words are not necessarily said in anger or in connection with pain, but now people are cursing simply for the sake of cursing.

From greeting cards to graffiti the spread of gutter language is evident. T-shirts, posters, bumper stickers and buttons bearing written obscenities can be seen almost everywhere.

Such language has become the “in” thing for many people.

Public profanity has become so widely accepted that reversal of the pattern would be difficult if not impossible.

No wonder that ours has been called “the Age of Obscenity”!

What is the reason?

The growth of obscenity is directly related to the deterioration of traditional institutions and standards of behavior.

“It’s a sign of the times,” says one religious spokesman. 

The breakdown of the family structure, the loss of respect for authority and the new ‘everything goes’ morality have all contributed to unrestrained, sexually explicit obscenities. 

Such language reflects today’s frequently immoral life-style.

Harvard psychiatry lecturer Thomas Cottle noted: 

People are finding their lives phony, unsatisfying, and they are angry. . . . Lurking behind this anger is aggressiveness.”

It is claimed that profanity is a means of releasing built-up anger and frustration. Chaytor Mason, a clinical psychologist admits:

If someone cuts across in front of me on the freeway and I cuss him out, it shows to me I’m a better person than he is and regains some of my ego status.”

Obscenities considered not harmful

"It should be applauded!", says Reinhold Aman, editor of Maledicta, a magazine about profanity.

He feels that verbal aggression is beneficial since it is preferable to physical aggression.  Aman says:

I’d rather be called a [*@*@] than get a bullet or knife in the chest,” 

Also putting in a good word for bad words, Chaytor Mason says: 

Profanity, swearing or whatever you want to call it is a time-tested and effective method of releasing emotions built up by frustration.”

More and more people are becoming tolerant of profanity, feeling that it is harmless.

They feel that the use of an obscenity to fit the occasion is justified.

In fact, Seventeen, a magazine for teenage girls, observes: 

Every once in a while, it’s fun to get together with the girls or the boys—or both for that matter—for a raunchy, can-you-top-this swear fest. I’m thinking of the scatology contest held on the third floor of my women’s college dorm. The four-letter words slung through the air that night would have made a vice cop blush.”

Do you agree that profanity is justified?

Spoken just for fun

What is a “scatology contest”?

According to Webster’s New Collegiate Dictionary, “scatology” is defined as: “Study of excrement; hence, study of the obscene.” 

What do you think about trying to top others in the use of vile language?

“Ranking” or “bagging” is the term often used for the swear fests in which young persons frequently engage today. 

The objective often is to insult the other person’s mother in a can-you-top-this word exchange. 

The opponents, generally two, are surrounded by a group of friends who laugh as they hear their friend’s mother degraded by a more witty opponent. 

A similar practice is name calling. It is the practice of describing another’s appearance, likening it to some unpleasant animal such as a pig, rat or skunk.

These practices, along with the telling of obscene jokes for entertainment, have become very common. 

By sharing in them, participants imply that indecencies are not so bad since they can joke about them. And they point out, ‘Look at how many people laugh.’ 

No doubt such practices have contributed to the increase of obscenities’ becoming a part of everyday speech, with even “professional” and “sophisticated” persons now using them.

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