What are the right shoes for your feet?

Display of many shoes.

If you have foot trouble, most likely you were not born with it but you acquired it from the shoes you have worn. Shoes appear to be the major cause of most foot problems.

Remove your shoes and stockings and take a look at your feet. Are the toes pinched together, with some of them overlapping on others? Are they misshapen, with the big toe at an unnatural angle?

Have the arches fallen? Do you have trouble with ingrown toenails? These are some of the things that can result from poorly fitting shoes.

Foot Trouble Begins Early


Surprising as it may seem, the trouble many people have with their feet began while they were children. It might even have begun during infancy by having had poorly designed shoes put on them that restricted toe movements and put pressure on the soft bones of their feet.

Infants that have not begun to walk do not need shoes. While awake, the infant is constantly wiggling and exercising these toes. Any restriction of this toe action is harmful.

Socks and bootees should not be worn, except on rare occasion, during the child’s first year. The same applies to shoes. Foot-wear shouldn't be considered until the child is starting to walk.

Allowing the child to go barefoot is often a good way to strengthen its feet and to protect them from future trouble. During the first eighteen months of its life this is possibly the most important factor in preventing it from acquiring fallen arches.

From the ages of two to seventeen the bones of the feet are undergoing a hardening process that makes the feet particularly susceptible to foot defects caused by ill-fitting shoes.

So when buying shoes for their children, parents should be careful to select shoes that are wide enough and long enough to provide ample toe room. It is unwise to put a shoe on a child’s foot that is too large with the idea that it can grow into it.

Unless the child has the right size, its foot can be damaged. Arch supports should be avoided unless a doctor recommends them. They are not needed by healthy feet but can weaken them.

Foot growth has to be watched in children, as a child can quickly outgrow his shoes and damage his feet by wearing shoes that are too small.

Shoes that have been outgrown by an older child should not indiscriminately be passed on to a younger brother or sister. It is important that shoes fit.

High-heeled Shoes


Shoe styles among women in many lands cause them to wear foot-cramping shoes with high heels, but prolonged use of such shoes is not good for their feet.

There are foot doctors who believe that high-heeled shoes cause the calf muscle to shorten, foot ligaments and tendons to be weakened and the metatarsal arch to break down.

Practically any foot defect or symptom which the individual already has is aggravated by the habitual wearing of high heels. Bunions, corns, strained or weak feet, etc., have no opportunity to improve, and will become worse. Of course, there are differences of opinion on this matter.

Yet it might be better for women who want to wear high-heeled shoes to do so occasionally or at irregular intervals. During the day when a woman is doing a lot of standing or walking, a low-heeled shoe would treat her feet more kindly.

Nevertheless, if a woman wants to switch to shoes with lower heels for regular wear, it does not seem advisable to make a sudden change after habitually wearing high heels. The change should be made gradually.

Due to the fact that a woman’s calf muscle has shortened by prolonged use of high heels, a sudden change to regular use of low heels can cause sharp aching and cramps in the calves of her legs from the muscles being stretched to their normal length.

How to find the right size of shoes for your feet?


The right fit is the most important thing to look for when purchasing shoes. No matter how attractive a shoe may appear to you, do not buy it if it fits poorly. As has been pointed out, ill-fitting shoes can ruin your feet and damage your health.

It is wise to shop for shoes in the afternoon. This is because your feet tend to swell slightly after having worn shoes for a while. Since your feet are always smaller in the morning after a night’s rest, the afternoon is the best time to get a good fit in shoes.

Have the shoe salesman measure both feet while you are standing. There can be as much as a full size difference between when you are sitting and when you are standing.

By having both feet measured, you will know whether you have one foot that is larger than the other. This is not uncommon. The larger foot is the one that should be fitted.

Do not insist upon the size indicated in the shoes you are wearing. Sizes can differ between brands of shoes. What might be right for you in one make could be wrong in another make. Then, too, the size you are wearing may not be the best size for your feet.

Still another reason for having your feet measured each time you purchase shoes is the fact that your feet can change as you grow older. A woman who wears a size 7% at the age of twenty might require a size 8% at the age of forty.

The feet of children ought to be measured frequently to ensure that their rapidly growing feet do not become cramped in their shoes.

Check the length of the shoes you try on. They should be sufficiently long to allow a space of from one-half to three-quarters of an inch beyond your longest toe. The longest toe may not be the large one; for some persons it is the second toe.

A man’s shoe should be as long as possible, so that the pointed toe does not squeeze the toes. To check the width, squeeze each side of the shoe between your thumb and forefinger.

When a shoe is too narrow the leather will remain taut. There should be a little slack in the leather that becomes noticeable when you squeeze the shoe.

The widest part of the shoe is where the sole begins to curve toward the heel. This is where the ball of your foot at the big-toe joint should be.

By pressing on the side of the shoe and by moving your big toe, you can feel the big-toe joint and can see whether it rests at the turn of the sole. If it is in front of this widest part of the shoe, ask for a longer shoe.

Try on both shoes and walk about the store. This is the best test of a shoe’s comfort. The sole should be firm but flexible so that it bends easily as you walk. The space over the toes should be sufficient so your toenail will not dig a ridge into the leather.

For the good of your feet you need room around your toes. If you can feel the tip of the shoe against the nail of your big toe or against the side of your toe, the shoe is a very poor fit.

A shoe must give your foot sufficient room to be comfortable. If it does not feel right in the store, it will not feel right outside the store when you are walking.

Look at the lining in the shoe. In cheaply made shoes the lining quickly becomes worn and bunches up so that the shoe becomes painful to wear.

Smooth leather is the best lining. It has a strong resistance to wrinkling and tearing and is less subject to decomposition than fabric linings.

There is no real saving in buying cheaply made shoes. They will quickly wear out and are not carefully designed to give you a proper fit.

On the other hand, expensive shoes are not necessary for foot comfort. There are medium-priced shoes that can provide you with a good fit along with durability.

What you spend for a pair of shoes may not be nearly what you spend for a suit of clothes, but those shoes can have a far greater influence on your temperament and your health than the suit.

So take care of your feet and the feet of your children by always choosing good-fitting shoes.

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How to be a loving husband?

A husband with his wife and child.

Nevertheless, in a society where the family is the basic unit it is proper that a man should take his responsibility as husband seriously.

Some husbands, though, have difficulty in adjusting themselves to the home environment because of the highly competitive atmosphere in which they must work all day, where the big-man-kick-little-man attitude often alienates the boss from his workers.

The boss wants to get as much out of his workers as he can. His presence will stimulate activity, but will not always be welcome. Perhaps you would like to improve conditions under which you work but are not in position to do so.

However, you can do something about conditions in the home where you are the husband. Your homecoming can be something that the whole family looks forward to, or it can be a time when your wife says, “Look out, kids, your father’s coming!"

Being a loving husband


Something that makes any of us feel good is when the boss comes along, notices the good work we are doing and commends us. Nothing is more discouraging than always to have one’s mistakes noticed and bad work returned, while good work seemingly goes unnoticed, taken for granted.

When we stop to think about it, we know that we are getting paid for doing the job right, but we still appreciate a little pat on the back. Now, if a husband feels that way, would it not be reasonable to conclude that a wife does too?

She will soon sense it if her housekeeping and cooking are being taken for granted. She works hard to have the house clean and the meal ready on time.

Or perhaps she has spent a lot of time looking through magazines to find a new recipe. She has changed her dress and tidied her hair, and now here comes her husband.

Coat thrown there, shoes kicked off there, he gobbles down the meal without noticing anything different, and then sinks back in the armchair buried in a newspaper.

What a disappointment! If only he had said something that showed a little appreciation. It would have required very little effort, and it would have meant so much.

Empathy, putting oneself in the place of the other person makes all the difference. It can turn a boss-like husband into a loving husband.

All right, so you have been pushed around all day, but why make your home as unpleasant as the place where you work? Why not make it a place where there is an atmosphere of love and mutual refreshment?

This points to the importance of having a happy home environment. It comes about, not regardless of what the husband does, but because of what he does. How much effort do you expend in this regard?

You may be very generous, showering your wife with gifts but have you noticed that there is not the same response as there used to be. Perhaps she feels that your gift-giving has become perfunctory.

If this is the case, use a little more initiative, giving a gift when it is not expected.

It is not that the gift is an expensive one, but it comes as a surprise and says, “Thank you, Darling, for all the effort and cooperation in making our home such a happy place.”

Therefore, always having empathy, commend wherever possible and being alert to ways of showing appreciation. You can avoid the reputation of being just a family boss and show that you really are a loving husband.

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Best way to deal with culture shock

A cross cultural music festival.

Those that make the move to a new country are usually beset by mixed feelings. They long for relatives, friends and familiar places and things that they are leaving behind, but also eager to find out what their new home will be like.

Many are prepared to “rough it,” and even though their destination may be a flourishing city, in their mind’s eye it is unexplored territory. And such it is, for now they are going to discover a new the culture of a foreign country.

They will listen to and learn an unfamiliar tongue and observe and even practice different customs. A difficult thing to do, you might say?

Obviously, we are not born with a particular culture. Nothing in our genes or skin color forces us to speak English instead of Spanish or to ride a donkey instead of a horse.

But considering the vast differences in cultures throughout the world, it is reasonable to believe that the one is going to find many broad rivers that separate one from understanding the culture in a new country. This might cause one to think:

"Why should l try to adjust myself? l like things just as they are. I enjoy getting together with my fellow countrymen from back home to talk things over. l can speak a little of the native language, but really l do not understand these people here, or their way of thinking or things! “

Ah, such expressions suggest that a person is suffering from a touch of the not too rare disease called “culture shock.”

What is culture shock?


We might call culture shock an occupational disease of people who have suddenly been transplanted in a foreign country. Their first reaction is to reject the environment which causes the discomfort.

Some other symptoms of culture shock are: excessive washing of the hands, excessive concern over drinking water, food dishes and bedding; fear of physical contact with attendants or servants; the absent-minded, far-away stare (sometimes called the tropical stare).

There is also feelings of helplessness and a desire for dependence on long-term residents of one’s own nationality.

One may suffer from excessive fear of being cheated, robbed, or injured, great concern over minor pains and eruptions of the skin and finally that terrible longing to be back home.

'But that’s not me’ one might say. ‘Why, I like it here. I even have close friends among the neighbors.’ That is fine. But consider.

Are you happy speaking just a little of the language? Can you appreciate a clever anecdote or, even better; relate one in the new tongue?

Have you learned some of the local idioms and do you enjoy the pleased looks of others when you ably use one? Can you honestly say you enjoy the company of the native-born as much as that of your own countrymen? Maybe not.

Cross culture bridge building


The obstacle to bridging completely the gap that separates one from his new neighbors is a disposition developed while growing up in one’s native country. It may be an almost unconscious feeling, unrecognized until pinpointed.

It is called “ethno-centrism,” and is defined as “a habitual disposition to judge foreign peoples or groups by the standards and practices of one’s own culture.

There is a tendency towards viewing alien cultures with disfavor and a resulting sense of inherent superiority.” In other words, it is a nationalistic attitude that says in effect, ‘Your way is not good; my way is best.’

Needless to say, this way of thinking is offensive; and if this is your trouble you will have to make some adjustments in your bridge building. But one might object: ‘I’m not going to change my identity just because I have changed my address. And I’m certainly not going to go native!

This, however, is not necessary in order to be successful in bridging the gulf that separates one from understanding the culture of his new country. Understanding the ways of a people is essential but this does not mean that you have to give up your own.”

The important thing to remember is that one’s native way of doing things is not necessarily always the best. Perhaps where one came from it was, but in a new country with different circumstances another way may be better.

Some people have become interested in foreign cultures and, in time, have considered them superior to their own.

For example some missionaries assigned to foreign lands have slowly and even unwittingly “gone native” in the sense that they are perfectly happy doing things in a new and different way.

They will even do their thinking and sometimes dreaming in their adopted language. What a rich experience!

On the other hand, there are typically hundreds of families that every year that make a permanent move to another country. They may migrate for a number of reasons. What should they expect?

One thing is sure, they will discover new manners and methods, some acceptable and some not. They will be thrilled, shocked, pleased and impressed. But the best part of it is that they will have the opportunity to build a bridge between their native culture and foreign culture.

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Why your signature can be very costly?

A man signing a contract.

It has happened to many persons, and it could happen to you too. A salesperson may call at your door and offer to demonstrate a vacuum cleaner or some other appliance, assuring you that there will be no obligation to buy.

When finishing and about to leave, he may say something to this effect: “By the way, would you please sign here. It is just for the record, so that I can let the boss know how many demonstrations I have conducted.” Many persons have quickly scribbled their names or signature sometimes just to get rid of the salesperson. Would you do so?

Some have later discovered that their signature can be very costly. The dishonest salesperson simply has to fill in the terms of a contract in which the signer agrees to buy the appliance for a given amount which, of course, is an exorbitant price that the salesperson inserts.

It is next to impossible to prove that the contract was filled out after the signature was fixed to it. So the signer may be required to pay. If one refuses, his salary can be garnisheed, so that the amount due is taken from his salary.

When a person appreciates the importance of his signature to what it can legally obligate him he becomes very cautious about signing anything.

He will read carefully before he signs; and more than that, he will keep a copy of all signed documents in his own personal tile. Exercising this precaution can save one many hundreds of dollars

Many other persons experience a financial tragedy because of failing to read carefully the fine print. Only afterward do they discover that they have signed up to pay exorbitant interest rates, or that what the salesman promised is really not provided for in the contract.

One con salesman had a desk full of cheap watches, none of which work. The salesman usually did business in a parking lot, at a bus stop or in a bar. “Wear it at home,” he would invite. “No charge. Just give me a buck or so, and bring the watch back tomorrow if you don’t like it.”

Then the salesman would present a “receipt,” as the salesman called it: “Just sign here.” He would say. Sadly the unsuspecting customers thought they had signed a “receipt” or something of the sort, but in reality they been conned.

One should remember that it is what is on the paper that one signs that counts; not what a salesperson promises, or what he says is there. Beware of anyone who explains, “That’s only there for special conditions,” or “Pay no attention to that because we never enforce it,” or “This clause doesn’t apply to you.” Do not accept such explanations. Have the contract changed before you sign it, and keep a copy of it.

For example, one family was induced to sign an inflated $1600 contract for house repairs, with the promise that they would receive a $100 check for every person in that area who, after seeing their home, placed an order for similar improvements. Later, however, the company salesman denied any knowledge of such a promise, and the family was stuck with paying the entire price.

Another thing to watch for are blank spaces in a contract or illegible writing or figures that can be doctored up later. It is a common practice of some, after you sign, to fill in these blank spaces with terms that alter the contract altogether.

The numbers can easily be changed. One woman customer complained that her contract was for $1360, but it came through as $1560. Here is an example of where having a carbon copy in legible form can save you from being cheated out of hundreds of dollars. This emphasizes how careful one must be.

Conclusion


Never forget that your signature holds you legally responsible to fulfill or submit to all the provisions of the contract you sign. So in order to avoid being cheated, or forced to submit to what is in violation of your principles, do not sign anything unless you clearly understand what it obligates you to do.

Do not let anyone hurry you into signing. Take your time and read carefully even fine print. Always remember to get and keep a copy. This may save you much trouble and a great deal of heartache.
  

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Is there really a totally free press or media?

 A press crew interviewing a police officer.

Though the press is free from censorship in many countries, it does not mean we should overemphasize the expression “the free press.” Why is this so?

Limitations of press freedom


When it comes to information, the information is dependent on the news agency. The agent for a piece of news will leave his mark and personality on the report.

For example, if you read or view an item from a country like Ukraine, which is involved in a “political war with Russia "-you must consider whether it comes from an American news agency or from a Russian news agency. The two agencies will tell the same piece of news in their own way.

Indeed much the American media agencies endeavor to be independent of the U.S. government’s policy, however their news service must necessarily be marked by the American origin, not colored, not twisted, only marked.

Actually, few media houses are truly independent. The reader or viewer who desires to be correctly informed should be aware of the interest this media houses have in serving a particular policy or group, such as a political party.

For instance, if a media house favors one political party over another, it will not be quick to criticize the party it favors, whereas events or actions no worse on the part of the opposing party will be severely attacked.

If there are no political interests to care for, there are other interests to consider. All media houses have the public or the majority to consider. By “the majority” we do not mean the majority of the entire nation, but the majority of the group to which the media addresses itself.

This majority has a peculiar influence on the press. How so? This is because this media houses are run as businesses. The media houses must sell advertising space.

The price of an advertisement depends in large measure on the reach of the media house. The more people who read or view their information, the more income an advertisement brings to the media house, as the rate per advertisement can be increased as more people are reached.

That is why media houses often take part in what can be called a “ratings race.” Hence, the media houses must be careful not to present material that would be offensive to these advertisers and cause them to withdraw their advertisements, damaging the prime source of income for them.

Therefore, it will be difficult for them to present ideals not favored by the majority. What interests the majority is considered more important than information about the big and vital issues. This can have a decided influence on the information presented by media houses.

Usually much interest is concentrated on the life of movie stars, princely weddings and princesses’ childbirths. The current psychological, cultural and historical significance of certain important events pass most people unnoticed. Or they only receive a shrug.

This willingness to cater to trivialities in order to build up the number of viewers or readers explains why superior media houses may often have much less reach than other media houses that devoted to sensational exposes of the lives of prominent people.

It seems as if in our time we have completely lost the ability to distinguish between important things and unimportant ones.

However, if a matter is fairly well covered by the media, the alert reader or viewer can get a general idea of what is happening.

But if one who wants to be objective and thoroughly informed on a particular subject, one must go to books or other sources of information that treat the matter as a special subject or get a cross-section of opinions. This is especially true if the subject is a controversial issue.

Conclusion


If you are an alert reader or viewer you can get much valuable information from the media as well as enjoyment, especially if you have given attention to the way information is gathered and the media group to which the information is accredited to.

The media has its proper place as a channel of information. It enables us to get a fair picture of what is going on in the world.

But we cannot be only contented with the information in the media domain only. This would not be complete or at times may even give us a distorted view of events. A balanced view of is essential to one who is truly interested in being enlightened on world affairs.

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Why stop always blaming others first?

A man pointing a finger blaming others.

To see things in their true light is not always easy, especially not when we have made a poor showing or something has gone wrong.

We may, in all sincerity, be convinced that how we were reared or the circumstances over which we had no control and other people are to blame. But is this always the case?

Could it be that you are also to blame?


For example, we may have been in an automobile accident. True, there was a fog, or the road was slippery with ice, or another driver was using poor judgment.

But what we should ask ourselves is, was I driving too fast, considering the circumstances? Had I been drinking? Was I drowsy from lack of sleep?

Was I daydreaming? Did I take needless chances? That is the wise course, not only to get at the facts, but also to profit by the experience and prevent future accidents.

What fills the law courts, so that the calendar of some courts is years behind, is the question: Just who is to blame and to what extent?

How fine it would be if one heard more often two persons arguing like this: “No, it was my fault!" “No, I was to blame!"

Domestic relations courts could be done away with entirely if there were more of such kind of arguments between members of a family.

Today, we are told, discipline is the chief problem in the public schools. For this situation the teaching faculty is prone to blame the children and their parents.

They are right; but is it not also a fact that, with permissive education and advancing children from grade to grade regardless of what they have learned, there are others who must also share the blame?

Then, too, some teachers receive more respect than do others; they are teachers that love, understanding, resourceful as well as firm when occasion demands.

So each teacher coping with the problem of discipline should ask, could it be that I am to blame, at least in part? 

On the other hand, pupils who are critical of their teachers would do well to ask to what extent they are expecting too much or they themselves are making the teacher’s task needlessly more difficult by their course of actions.

In many homes parents and children live in separate worlds, as it were. They have their own interests and go their own way to address their problems separately.

Usually, this is because there is a lack of understanding on both sides. This may cause them to blame each other for their misunderstandings.

However, this only creates a barrier between them. Being sole concerned with what is to their advantage blinds them to what is due to each other. 

Have parents become strangers to their children because of lack of discernment or because of being so deeply absorbed in their own viewpoint? Are youths lacking empathy, thus unwilling to see things through their parent’s experienced eyes?

Especially those who fail to find happiness in that most intimate of all relations is that of husband and wife should ask themselves the following questions. 

Am I to blame that this partnership is not running smoothly or is not producing the fruitage l hoped for and had reason to expect?

If a wife she keeps her husband walking on eggs, as it were, so as not to offend her? How can he be as appreciative, affectionate, tender and spontaneously ardent as she would like to have him be? 

Likewise the husband, although his wife is not to sets herself up as his judge, still he would do well to ask himself whenever she disappoints him, could it be that he was also to blame?

Yes, let censure and blame begin with ourselves first. If all of us could do this, then this could go a long way in help us finding solutions to the many problems affecting our lives.

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